The Average Guy

Changes in routine and working late are absolute signals of an affair. However, he could just be working late. Does he have a reason to work with this woman? Is there distance in your marriage and relationship? Look at your husband in the eye and ask him if he is happy with your marriage. An open ended question will give him room to talk and answer you. Cheating is a burden that most guys hate to carry.

Alison James

Why? What is missing from your relationship that makes you doubt his integrity? Trust and honesty are obviously critical to any successful marriage. So confront him with your suspicion and see how he reacts. If he loves you and wants to make the marriage work, he will be more than willing to invest the time and energy required to regain your trust and rebuild the relationship. If he's not willing to work with you or if you feel like he's lying, you have to ask yourself 'Why am I staying in this situation with someone who doesn't give me what I need and deserve?' Ultimately, you want a husband who is an active participant in your marriage and who is actively involved in making the relationship a success. If he's not doing these things, he's nothing more than a male roommate who doesn't do his share of housework.

Sonia Torretto

Has your husband done something in the past that makes him not trustworthy is your eyes? Regardless, you need to tell him about how you feel and you both need to face this issue together. Don't approach him in a confrontational way, though. Men hate confrontation! You can telling him that you're concerned about the long hours he's putting in at work and you want to know if there is anything wrong, either with him personally or in your marriage. See what happens from there. You may also want to try couples counseling to get at the root of the problem. Stay strong!