Alison James

He is just a diversion, someone fun who takes your mind of the troubles you're having with your husband. Ask yourself a few important questions: Do you still love your husband? Do you want to make your marriage work? All marriages have ups and downs. Many people jump ship at the first sign of trouble but if you love each other and you're both willing to make an effort, hang in there and try to resolve your differences. Remember: a new relationship might be hot and steamy for a while but you will eventually face challenges with that person too.

Sonia Torretto

You've first got to decide if you want to really make this marriage work. From what you've written here, it doesn't seem like you do. It seems like you're already head over heels for this new guy. If that's the case and you want out of your marriage, be honest about it and talk to your husband. Tell him you want a divorce and try your best to do it amicably. If you want to make your marriage work and are willing to put in the effort to salvage it, then your first step is to visit a good marriage counselor. Good luck, girl!

The Average Guy

You're cheating on your husband. You are emotionally involved and invested with someone outside of your marriage. If your husband were doing the same thing, you might post him on this site. I would never recommend to somebody to cheat on their spouse. If you don't want to be married to him, do yourselves a favor and get a divorce. However, you need to realize that you're fighting about everything has nothing to do with what you're fighting about. There are deeper issues that are causing the conflicts in your marriage. This is the decision tree I would suggest for you. First, stop seeing the other man because you're high on lust and anticipation. You need to come down so that you can make a decision. Second, decide if you want to be married to your husband. If you do, seek professional help. If not, proceed with a divorce. But in all of this act with integrity.