Alison James

and made one stupid, drunken mistake, confess to her, beg for forgiveness and hope she doesn't kick you out on your ear. Some might say 'What she doesn't know won't hurt her,' but women are very perceptive so she will probably figure it out anyway. In the end, she deserves to know why you did it and what you plan to do to make amends. She also deserves the chance to look down into your groveling eyes and determine for herself whether or not you are sincere. With this information, she can make an educated decision about she wants to proceed. And yes, the relationship is now 'all about her' so get used to it.

Sonia Torretto

Your first order of business should be to tell your wife what you've done. She will most likely find out anyway and this devastating information is better coming from you than a third party or her accidentally finding out somehow. You need to give her the choice of whether or not she wants to continue in the marriage. You need to be honest about why you cheated and you both need to evaluate whether or not you want to continue in the marriage. You should not do this alone. As a couple, you should seek out the help of a therapist.

The Average Guy

Never, never, never, ever do it again. Cheating causes so much harm in a marriage. You need to ask yourself why you did this. Were you lonely? Is she unattractive? Did you need an ego boost? Think about what made you act this way and then deal with this issue and never do it again. Also, you might consider seeking some therapy to talk through the issues that made you do this.