Alison James

You need to get out of this relationship today. There is no grey zone here. If you stay, you are signing yourself up for a lifetime of abuse. If you leave, you are making, hands down, the best decision you could ever make. His behavior is a glaring neon warning sign. Please do not ignore it. He is controlling, and abusive, and will only get more so as time progresses. Read a few books on verbal and physical abuse. Pay close attention to the early warning signs and you will see that your boyfriend fits the description perfectly.

Sonia Torretto

It starts with behavior that women sometimes overlook. Using the term "hothead" probably doesn't accurately describe your boyfriend. If he flies off the handle at everything little thing 75% of the time, but is nice to you for the other 25%, that's not a healthy relationship. Whether you know it or not, you are being abused by your boyfriend. He is inflicting emotional distress on you and it's his behavior is hurting you. There are two ways to handle it. You could either leave now and cut your losses or take a chance that he'll get better, get help or change and your relationship will be better. As someone who's been in an abusive relationship, I advise you to leave now and cut your losses rather than end up having your years of your life, that you will never get back, wasted being your boyfriend's punching bag.

The Average Guy

Breakup or have him seek therapy. Your boyfriend has anger issues. They existed long before you met. He is not made about the things you fight about. He is angry in general. This will not get better and it won't go away. He has to solve this when he believes that it has truly become a problem.