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My new boyfriend and I have a great relationship. In fact, there's only one thing wrong with it. He has several close female friends that he spends time with. At first, I was okay with it. But it seems like he's always with one particular friend supposedly because she's having problems with her boyfriend. I'm very worried about what's happening. We've spoken about it and he says he's just being a good friend. I feel like I'm always going to be competing with these girls for his attention. What can I do?
Wondering 05 February, 2007 - 00:00
Wondering 05 February, 2007 - 00:00
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It sounds as if your boyfriend is not giving you something you need. He is not providing enough reassurance and he is not giving you the sense that he is committed to you. If this man is the right one for you for the long-haul, you should be able to talk to him about how you feel and he should be responsive. Look at it this way, if he said to you 'I feel a little jealous that you are talking to this other man you are friends with,' how would you react? If you love him, you would say 'I am so sorry. I definitely do not want you to feel this way. I will cut down on the amount of time I spend with him.' Then you would do special things to remind your boyfriend that you love him and only him. He should do the same thing if you confront him with your feelings about these other women. He should put you first, and do everything he can to reassure you. If he does anything less than that, he is not the right guy for you.
Janelle, I'm a guy - in fact, I'm the average guy. I call bullshit on this female friends crap. The only reason we are friends with women are as follows: 1. we have slept with them and never want to again. 2. We are not attracted to them at all under any circumstances; or 3 we hang around to have access to the woman and to try to get with her at the right moment. He is your boyfriend and the problems this other chick has should be discussed with her boyfriend. She may be getting the wrong kind of comfort from your man. I have a friendship with two women''my woman and another woman that is like 15 years older than me who I'm not the slightest bit attracted to. I'm also friends with her boyfriend of 7 years. He and I go to sporting events together. Your boyfriend needs to drop the other friend. Your feelings are much more important that this other woman's feelings.