LOVE PANEL
Question:
While I was working on my man's computer, I discovered that he is hiding e-mail messages from his exes in a separate folder on his computer. He also has all the porn the guys used to send him from his old job!! I was disgusted to read an e-mail where he was telling someone that he was thinking about getting back together with his ex-wife six months before he started dating me (something he lied to me about profusely), that he was exchanging e-mail messages with women he was trying to date behind my back, two months after we started dating and that he was continously e-mailing someone he once dated that he said he was no longer in communication with well into our relationship, in fact, shortly before we got engaged he was still talking to her. I started to delete them all as I read them, but then I stopped. I said to myself he's keeping them there for a reason, so I should leave them. I feel very hurt and resentful toward him. I really want out of this relationship. What should I do?
Wondering 25 June, 2007 - 00:00
Wondering 25 June, 2007 - 00:00
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This man has led a secret life behind your back from day one! Why would he still be keeping all of these e-mails from his exes? What does he hope to gain by this? If you guys are engaged or married, you're in even bigger trouble here. You need to confront him on his one, girl and do it soon. You don't know what's going on, but you need to find out! He sounds like a loser, but you won't know for sure until you ask him for an explanation of why he keeps these e-mails.
that there's no logical explanation for why he would keep these lovey-dovey e-mails from his exes. He has been or is up to something, but the unfortunate part is you won't find out until you actually ask him. This is going to mean telling him that you know about the e-mails. If you stumbled upon them accidentally or if you looked on purpose, you need to tell him that you know about them. The sad part is that whatever trust you had in your relationship is eroded and you'll have a problem believing him, let alone wanting to hear his side of everything you read in those e-mails. I would say you and your man need to talk and them maybe take some time apart to sort out what's going on. If he's all about you, then he wouldn't have those e-mails from his exes screwing up his harddrive!