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While lounging around my boyfriend's place on a visit, I went on his computer to find his MySpace account completely open and accessible. Absolutely shocked, I found four pages of messages between him and random girls. He says things to them like, I have to get to know you, you're adorable etc. When I showed him what I found, he was embarrassed and said repeatedly that he's so sorry, it's more of a game to him to see how many girls he can get to want him, a challenge like a video game. I've been devastated ever since! Does it seem like he's cheating or could this just be a sick habit?
Wondering 12 April, 2007 - 00:00
Wondering 12 April, 2007 - 00:00
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You say several times that you don't agree with his behavior. You say it is disrespectful and you do not trust him now. So why are you even going to consider staying with him? There are so many men in the world. Yes, breaking up with someone is hard but staying in a relationship with someone you do not trust or do not respect is a thousand times harder. It does not matter if he was just playing around or if he only dated these girls when you two were broken up. What matters is that you don't agree with his behavior. Trust yourself. You know what you need from a man. Find it. Do not talk yourself into staying in a relationship with someone you cannot believe in.
ever heard, girl! This man has a problem and you don't want to be caught in the middle of it. He sounds like an immature sex addict if you ask me. He has to look at girls on the Internet when he gets bored? He needs to get another hobby or find a second job if he wants to keep you around! If I were you girl, I would run! Life is too short to waste it on morons while the person who's really the guy of your dreams is out there somewhere and you have just got to find him. How can you do that when you are running around trying to reform a cyber sex addict?
but it is conceivable that he was just playing a game with these women. Stupid? Yes. Insensitive? Yes. But, you have to question the real strength of your relationship. It sounds like you have trust issues and he has boredom issues. However, why were you calling girls that he contacted when you were broken up? This is especially troubling given the fact you that you said you would have hooked up with a guy if you had the opportunity. You seem to be most upset that he got laid and you didn't.