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Hi there! My live- in boyfriend of 4 years walked out on me unexpectedly on the 1st of September (we have been living together for 3 and a half years). He packed up all his things while I was at work and he left me a note. I'm trying hard to understand what's going on. We've had a rough year. He lost his job in November last year and only recently found another one. I know he's not happy with the job he is in right now, but it was just a job to pay the bills. He is such an intelligent and talented young man. We've been having some problems sexually because we're both so tired and stressed all the time. But it was something we've been trying to work through. He told me that I'm not what he wants (even though I've been the best girlfriend, so loving and supportive) and that he doesn't feel the same anymore (even though he never mentioned to me or his friends or his family that he was unhappy). I don't know what to do. My life is in ruins. I don't know what happened in his mind that he thought he couldn't continue anymore. It was so sudden. I don't believe for one second that he doesn't love me anymore. Please help! -- Jessica

Wondering 21 September, 2009 - 17:11
This site is a blessing. Thank you so much for your effort and advice to all the member. Here is my problem. I'm in a relationship for 13 years with a divorced doctor, 17 years older than me. I'm 39 and he's 57. We don't live together, but we stay together, my place or his place occasionally, and we never had a fight, mostly because I hate arguments. Anyway, in May 2007 I found out that he was having an affair with a married woman, mother of 2 boys and 10 years older than me, who was supposed to be my 'friend'. I confronted him and we had a huge fight over the phone. It felt like a small death but I stepped back even thought I was so painful. The summer was over and he started texting me again. But it looked like he was waiting for me to make a move and reconnect. When we finally met 7 months after our break up, I saw regret on his face, so I gave him another chance and thing were great after that. 2 years pass and recently I found out that they still see each other and they actually spend some of his summer holidays together. After the summer holidays he spent with the other woman he has changed somehow. He is more affectionate, we spend EVERY weekend together, quality time together, he is more open and friendlier, he is the one who initiates phone calls, dates, sex, trips, everything. He finds time to spend with me despite his busy schedule. He came closer to me which makes me wonder - What's wrong!!! Oh! And - he doesn't know that I'm aware of this 'summer holiday with the other woman' thing, 'cause I haven't confronted him yet. And to tell you the truth, I'm not willing to. I won't throw 13 years of my life into the toilet because of him. Which means I'm on alert. I want to fight for my man and my relationship and I want her out of our lives once and for all. I feel that at this point, any kind of advice or help would be much appreciated. Sorry for the long post and thank you so much for your time and patience. Love, Lena

Wondering 17 September, 2009 - 13:31
I was with a man for 4 years, he was caught cheating and he begged me to please take him back. I did. I know it was dumb. A few months later he slept with my sister. I left and was not turning back. He begged and said he would do anything. I felt he was a cheat and a player. So I told him if we moved in together and he had to change his number I would consider working stuff out. I NEVER THOUGHT HE WOULD AGREE. He did. and I really really thought maybe he did love me and was going to change. Long story short. He didn't. During that time, we adopted a son. Our son is 6 months old and he left when he was 2 months old. Still fresh and tender in my heart. He still texts and calls. Sometimes we talk about getting back together sometimes he is mean and ugly towards me. I am so confused. He left one week before our wedding. I feel so stupid because I know I shouldn't love him but I do. I pray every single night to forget him. But I still don't. I have a son now. We were supposed to do this together, not for me to be a single mother! What should I do? -- Trying to Get Over Him

Wondering 28 July, 2009 - 12:10
 
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