What Happens When You're More in Love Than Your Guy Is
Researchers are divided on this subject. Some think that a woman is better able to tolerate loving him more than he loves her. This might be because women are taught to be self-sacrificing and take care of others before they take care of their own needs.
Although she might be sad about it, she is able to stay in the relationship by weighing its advantages and disadvantages. She might also be more tolerant of a lop-sided relationship when there are children involved, putting the children's needs ahead of her own.
Other research shows that a man stays put when he is more in love with the woman, because she is a constant challenge. He is never quite sure that he has her, so he is always pursuing her. Men do not take rejection as personally as women. They see it as a challenge and a contest where they need to work harder, pursue harder, and keep trying until he wins her over.
Most long-term relationships shift back and forth, and couples married many years will tell you that in some years she loved him more, and in other years he loved her more.
Being able to tolerate the ups and downs while realizing that your life together will shift back and forth is one of the secrets to staying together for a long time.
If you find yourself currently in a romance where you are the one more in love there is a simple trick you can do to fix the situation. Make yourself a little bit scarce and a little bit hard to find. Don't withdraw. Continue to be warm when interacting with your partner - just make yourself a little less available. Don't respond to all the emails and phone calls.
Don't always fill your partner in on where you are and what you are doing. Give your love some breathing room and a little space to miss you in. Absence does make the heart grow fonder. It is not playing games to make yourself a little less available to one who is taking you for granted and not appreciating you as much as you deserve to be.
It is human nature to take for granted something that we have all the time and we no longer have to work hard to have.
Understanding that principle of human behavior and using it to your advantage is being smart, not playing games, and besides, as well all know, all is fair in love and war! -- Kerry L. Gray, kerry@dontdatehimgirl.com
Although she might be sad about it, she is able to stay in the relationship by weighing its advantages and disadvantages. She might also be more tolerant of a lop-sided relationship when there are children involved, putting the children's needs ahead of her own.
Other research shows that a man stays put when he is more in love with the woman, because she is a constant challenge. He is never quite sure that he has her, so he is always pursuing her. Men do not take rejection as personally as women. They see it as a challenge and a contest where they need to work harder, pursue harder, and keep trying until he wins her over.
Most long-term relationships shift back and forth, and couples married many years will tell you that in some years she loved him more, and in other years he loved her more.
Being able to tolerate the ups and downs while realizing that your life together will shift back and forth is one of the secrets to staying together for a long time.
If you find yourself currently in a romance where you are the one more in love there is a simple trick you can do to fix the situation. Make yourself a little bit scarce and a little bit hard to find. Don't withdraw. Continue to be warm when interacting with your partner - just make yourself a little less available. Don't respond to all the emails and phone calls.
Don't always fill your partner in on where you are and what you are doing. Give your love some breathing room and a little space to miss you in. Absence does make the heart grow fonder. It is not playing games to make yourself a little less available to one who is taking you for granted and not appreciating you as much as you deserve to be.
It is human nature to take for granted something that we have all the time and we no longer have to work hard to have.
Understanding that principle of human behavior and using it to your advantage is being smart, not playing games, and besides, as well all know, all is fair in love and war! -- Kerry L. Gray, kerry@dontdatehimgirl.com
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