Analyzing Your First Date: a Go or a No?
There is no doubt about it. Girls and Guys think about dating in different ways. Girls can romanticize a first date and imagine themselves marrying the guy who was so uncomfortable he could not wait to get away from that very same date!
Here are three date situations where guys and girls do not see things alike. These are red flags where girls think they were on a dream date but the guy has no intention of calling again.
RED FLAG - He does not talk much. She does all the talking. She thinks the date was fabulous and he was so into her because he listened all night long.
She sees his silence as him wanting know all about her. She dreams of many more long
conversations on moonlit nights. The truth is, she was talking so much because she had to carry the conversation. He was not interested. He did not take part in discussions or participate in any of their conversations.
This is the first sign that a date is turning bad. Do not count on a second date, ladies. Next time get comfortable with some silences and don't talk the entire time. Give him a chance to pick up the ball and run. Men like to score, not be walked on and talked over.
RED FLAG - He ended the date early. She thinks he is responsible because he has to get to an early work meeting, take his mother to the doctor, or attend his cat's funeral. She believes he has his priorities on straight, because he ended the date early. She dreams of a wedding with a successful man who will tell her to stay home and have his babies. Wrong. Men do not end dates with girls they want to impress and see again.
Men try to prolong great dates for any reason, like drinks, dessert, or a walk, anything to spend more time with you. Men will stay up all night with you if you let them. If they are interested and fascinated they will not want to leave. Someone has to end the date, and even when it is a great date, make sure it is you, girlfriend.
RED FLAG - He does not see you safely home. He puts you in a cab first or starts to walk home while you walk the other way. She is confused at his behavior but chalks it up to him being preoccupied. She makes excuses for him and hopes he will be more of a gentleman next time.
Delusional denial. This is a man who wants to escape. When he jumps into his car and peels out of the parking lot while you are still looking for your keys, say Goodbye and move on to the next man with manners. This guy will probably call you a month later at two a.m. for a booty call, and you better say No.
When a date goes great you know it in your heart. If you get one of these three red flags, do not ignore them. Chalk them up to dating experience and let that guy go. He just isn't that into you. There is another great guy right around the corner who will be.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
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Here are three date situations where guys and girls do not see things alike. These are red flags where girls think they were on a dream date but the guy has no intention of calling again.
RED FLAG - He does not talk much. She does all the talking. She thinks the date was fabulous and he was so into her because he listened all night long.
She sees his silence as him wanting know all about her. She dreams of many more long
conversations on moonlit nights. The truth is, she was talking so much because she had to carry the conversation. He was not interested. He did not take part in discussions or participate in any of their conversations.
This is the first sign that a date is turning bad. Do not count on a second date, ladies. Next time get comfortable with some silences and don't talk the entire time. Give him a chance to pick up the ball and run. Men like to score, not be walked on and talked over.
RED FLAG - He ended the date early. She thinks he is responsible because he has to get to an early work meeting, take his mother to the doctor, or attend his cat's funeral. She believes he has his priorities on straight, because he ended the date early. She dreams of a wedding with a successful man who will tell her to stay home and have his babies. Wrong. Men do not end dates with girls they want to impress and see again.
Men try to prolong great dates for any reason, like drinks, dessert, or a walk, anything to spend more time with you. Men will stay up all night with you if you let them. If they are interested and fascinated they will not want to leave. Someone has to end the date, and even when it is a great date, make sure it is you, girlfriend.
RED FLAG - He does not see you safely home. He puts you in a cab first or starts to walk home while you walk the other way. She is confused at his behavior but chalks it up to him being preoccupied. She makes excuses for him and hopes he will be more of a gentleman next time.
Delusional denial. This is a man who wants to escape. When he jumps into his car and peels out of the parking lot while you are still looking for your keys, say Goodbye and move on to the next man with manners. This guy will probably call you a month later at two a.m. for a booty call, and you better say No.
When a date goes great you know it in your heart. If you get one of these three red flags, do not ignore them. Chalk them up to dating experience and let that guy go. He just isn't that into you. There is another great guy right around the corner who will be.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
Hit us up on MySpace, and send us a Tweet on Twitter! We love hearing from you!!!
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