Can You Turn a Bad Boy Into a Good One?
Do you have a bad boy on your hands? Are rotten kids ruining your life? You can instantly turn them around with this easy plan to stop bad behavior. Follow this simple rule. Reward good behavior.
Life is funny. We pay too much attention to the bad things and let the good ones go by unnoticed. The same is true with the people in our lives. The ones with constant problems take up all of our energy. It does not have to be this way. Those people who suck the life right out of you and bleed you dry should be cut off and put out of your life.
Why do we pay so much attention to the miserable people and not enough to the happy and good ones? Learn to reward good behavior and give no attention to the bad.
Look around and see what you notice the most and who you give your time and energy to.
Is it the bad stuff and the bad people? Sometimes bad things happen and people make bad choices, over and over again. They choose to constantly live their life in despair and disruption. Do not reward those
people with your time and attention.
The mistake is in rewarding bad things and bad people with most of your energy, time, attention and money. The secret to success here is to give negative things and lousy people very little. Save yourself for
the good things and the rewarding rich relationships with good people who are right in front of you.
Do you deal with the negative things first, and the positive things later? Do you give more time and attention to your kid who misbehaves than the good ones who never get in trouble?
Do you run after the bad boy when he's done you wrong, and ignore the good one who wants
to bring you flowers, take you out, and is crazy about you?
It is said that the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Do not let that saying be true in your life. Resolve to ignore the things and people who cause you misery. You will be so much happier when you do Do not give bad behavior from anyone or anything your time, energy or attention. Completely ignore it for as long as possible.
Getting mad, screaming, yelling, talking and whining are all forms of attention, so do not give that, either. A therapist once told me that it is okay to decide that someone who causes you grief and misery will no longer
be in your life, even if that person is a family member or a relative. She was right. When people cause you grief, especially those
who do it for years, cut that person off. Life will be easier and you will feel whole and complete. This will be the fastest way that bad actor changes his ways, too.
When he no longer gets your attention for being bad, he will come around if he wants to keep you in his life! Until he changes his stripes, have nothing to do with him. He does not deserve your time, attention, energy, or money, so simply do not give it to him. Let him make his own way, and you can welcome him back when and if he does. If he doesn't? Better luck next life.
The same is true with your kids. The good ones never get the time, energy and attention that the bad ones do. It is the kid who is drinking, drugging, and getting arrested who gets her parent's time, energy, attention and money. Why is that? It should be the opposite.
It is said that parents who die leave tremendous wealth to their children who are poor achievers, do not finish school, and are alcoholics and drug addicts.
Those same parents will not leave as much money to their good kids who become doctors and lawyers and never spend a day in jail. Why? That is not how it should be. Reward the good behavior and completely ignore the bad. When you do this, the bad behavior will slip away and stop knocking on your door, just like magic.
The next time your man throws a temper tantrum and acts ugly, ignore him. Walk right on by. Stay cool and calm. Walk out the door
if you have to. Do not say anything at all. Sleep in the extra bedroom, and do not talk to him the next day either. Do not be ugly or give him the cold shoulder, just say Hi, be friendly, and go about your business, whistling while you work. You do not have time for bad actors or temper tantrums.
As soon as he realizes he is wrong, he will start following you around the house waiting for you to pat him on the head like a little puppy dog. Take your time, and then go overboard rewarding him when he acts like the great guy you know he is. Now you are on the right track. You have just done more to turn your relationship around than all your nagging, complaining and arguing will ever do.
The very first time one of your kids calls you from jail, hang up on her. Do not scream, yell, cry, and run down to the jail and
bail her out. Like Grandma said, she made her bed, now let her lie in it, even if she never gets up again. Really. You raised her the best you could, now you have to let her go to make her choices and live with the consequences. Stay cool and calm. Completely ignore her. She will have to work it out on her own.
Now, drop everything you are doing, and take your good kid out to lunch. Grab a movie with that good kid who rewards you by doing everything right. Buy that one something nice. Treat her to your time, attention, energy and money. Lavish everything you have on that one. What goes around comes around. Reward the good and ignore the bad.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
Life is funny. We pay too much attention to the bad things and let the good ones go by unnoticed. The same is true with the people in our lives. The ones with constant problems take up all of our energy. It does not have to be this way. Those people who suck the life right out of you and bleed you dry should be cut off and put out of your life.
Why do we pay so much attention to the miserable people and not enough to the happy and good ones? Learn to reward good behavior and give no attention to the bad.
Look around and see what you notice the most and who you give your time and energy to.
Is it the bad stuff and the bad people? Sometimes bad things happen and people make bad choices, over and over again. They choose to constantly live their life in despair and disruption. Do not reward those
people with your time and attention.
The mistake is in rewarding bad things and bad people with most of your energy, time, attention and money. The secret to success here is to give negative things and lousy people very little. Save yourself for
the good things and the rewarding rich relationships with good people who are right in front of you.
Do you deal with the negative things first, and the positive things later? Do you give more time and attention to your kid who misbehaves than the good ones who never get in trouble?
Do you run after the bad boy when he's done you wrong, and ignore the good one who wants
to bring you flowers, take you out, and is crazy about you?
It is said that the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Do not let that saying be true in your life. Resolve to ignore the things and people who cause you misery. You will be so much happier when you do Do not give bad behavior from anyone or anything your time, energy or attention. Completely ignore it for as long as possible.
Getting mad, screaming, yelling, talking and whining are all forms of attention, so do not give that, either. A therapist once told me that it is okay to decide that someone who causes you grief and misery will no longer
be in your life, even if that person is a family member or a relative. She was right. When people cause you grief, especially those
who do it for years, cut that person off. Life will be easier and you will feel whole and complete. This will be the fastest way that bad actor changes his ways, too.
When he no longer gets your attention for being bad, he will come around if he wants to keep you in his life! Until he changes his stripes, have nothing to do with him. He does not deserve your time, attention, energy, or money, so simply do not give it to him. Let him make his own way, and you can welcome him back when and if he does. If he doesn't? Better luck next life.
The same is true with your kids. The good ones never get the time, energy and attention that the bad ones do. It is the kid who is drinking, drugging, and getting arrested who gets her parent's time, energy, attention and money. Why is that? It should be the opposite.
It is said that parents who die leave tremendous wealth to their children who are poor achievers, do not finish school, and are alcoholics and drug addicts.
Those same parents will not leave as much money to their good kids who become doctors and lawyers and never spend a day in jail. Why? That is not how it should be. Reward the good behavior and completely ignore the bad. When you do this, the bad behavior will slip away and stop knocking on your door, just like magic.
The next time your man throws a temper tantrum and acts ugly, ignore him. Walk right on by. Stay cool and calm. Walk out the door
if you have to. Do not say anything at all. Sleep in the extra bedroom, and do not talk to him the next day either. Do not be ugly or give him the cold shoulder, just say Hi, be friendly, and go about your business, whistling while you work. You do not have time for bad actors or temper tantrums.
As soon as he realizes he is wrong, he will start following you around the house waiting for you to pat him on the head like a little puppy dog. Take your time, and then go overboard rewarding him when he acts like the great guy you know he is. Now you are on the right track. You have just done more to turn your relationship around than all your nagging, complaining and arguing will ever do.
The very first time one of your kids calls you from jail, hang up on her. Do not scream, yell, cry, and run down to the jail and
bail her out. Like Grandma said, she made her bed, now let her lie in it, even if she never gets up again. Really. You raised her the best you could, now you have to let her go to make her choices and live with the consequences. Stay cool and calm. Completely ignore her. She will have to work it out on her own.
Now, drop everything you are doing, and take your good kid out to lunch. Grab a movie with that good kid who rewards you by doing everything right. Buy that one something nice. Treat her to your time, attention, energy and money. Lavish everything you have on that one. What goes around comes around. Reward the good and ignore the bad.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
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