Do You Really Want an Old-Fashioned Guy?
Do you long for a real honest man with morals? One you can have kids with, grow old with, and stick with for better or worse?
If you do, then you have to act like an old fashioned girl yourself. Today's girls are playing a different game, and they often end up with bad guys, players instead of decent guys.
Are you making the wrong moves by playing these games? If you are, you will not end up with the old fashioned "till death do us part" kind of guy. You will end up with a liar, a cheater, or even worse.
First, don't chase the guys. Sure, you might have to occasionally text or call him to
confirm your plans, but for the most part, let him do the chasing. It is always much better and more fun when he texts you, calls you, or drives all over town hoping to find you. Guys are biologically built to chase. Let him do it, and only give your interest and time to the ones who do.
This is an easy way to end up with a great old fashioned guy who adores you. Do not chase men, ever. Only pay attention to the ones who pursue you.
Second, do not play the sexually aggressive, "I kissed a girl and now I want to have a threesome" game. Lots of girls think this is what the guys want. They try to be sexually aggressive and liberated by agreeing to do things they know go against their inner moral code. Heavy drinking and drugging often goes along with this game. It is easier to get wild when drunk or loaded.
Yes, the guys all laugh and watch and act like they love it when two girls make out at a party. They will insist that all girls are secret lesbians and want to have threesomes. They will post girl girl sex on their home page. Are these the good, old fashioned guys you want to marry? No! Have a strict standard of behavior and code of conduct, especially when it comes to sex. It is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
Respect yourself, and you will get the respect you deserve. Old fashioned guys will pick you over the sexually aggressive girls every single time.
The sad part is that once girls act like this, they are often repaid with boyfriends who cheat and lie. I know a sad girl who agreed to go on a "swingers" site with her boyfriend, and who agreed to have a threesome, thinking it would please him. She was rewarded by her boyfriend cheating on her multiple times behind her back and then blaming her when he got caught.
She did everything she could to be sexually liberated, open and understanding. It backfired. Now she is 33, living with a cheater, and has no future with a good guy that she might have hooked up with because she chose the wrong path. A guy who uses you for outrageous sex and threesomes will move on to the next thrill when you want more of a real relationship. You will not be rewarded with a devoted good guy - just the opposite.
Be smart, and land an old fashioned guy by being an old fashioned girl. All you have to lose is your future.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
KerryLGray@gmail.com
If you do, then you have to act like an old fashioned girl yourself. Today's girls are playing a different game, and they often end up with bad guys, players instead of decent guys.
Are you making the wrong moves by playing these games? If you are, you will not end up with the old fashioned "till death do us part" kind of guy. You will end up with a liar, a cheater, or even worse.
First, don't chase the guys. Sure, you might have to occasionally text or call him to
confirm your plans, but for the most part, let him do the chasing. It is always much better and more fun when he texts you, calls you, or drives all over town hoping to find you. Guys are biologically built to chase. Let him do it, and only give your interest and time to the ones who do.
This is an easy way to end up with a great old fashioned guy who adores you. Do not chase men, ever. Only pay attention to the ones who pursue you.
Second, do not play the sexually aggressive, "I kissed a girl and now I want to have a threesome" game. Lots of girls think this is what the guys want. They try to be sexually aggressive and liberated by agreeing to do things they know go against their inner moral code. Heavy drinking and drugging often goes along with this game. It is easier to get wild when drunk or loaded.
Yes, the guys all laugh and watch and act like they love it when two girls make out at a party. They will insist that all girls are secret lesbians and want to have threesomes. They will post girl girl sex on their home page. Are these the good, old fashioned guys you want to marry? No! Have a strict standard of behavior and code of conduct, especially when it comes to sex. It is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
Respect yourself, and you will get the respect you deserve. Old fashioned guys will pick you over the sexually aggressive girls every single time.
The sad part is that once girls act like this, they are often repaid with boyfriends who cheat and lie. I know a sad girl who agreed to go on a "swingers" site with her boyfriend, and who agreed to have a threesome, thinking it would please him. She was rewarded by her boyfriend cheating on her multiple times behind her back and then blaming her when he got caught.
She did everything she could to be sexually liberated, open and understanding. It backfired. Now she is 33, living with a cheater, and has no future with a good guy that she might have hooked up with because she chose the wrong path. A guy who uses you for outrageous sex and threesomes will move on to the next thrill when you want more of a real relationship. You will not be rewarded with a devoted good guy - just the opposite.
Be smart, and land an old fashioned guy by being an old fashioned girl. All you have to lose is your future.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
KerryLGray@gmail.com
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