Figure Flaws and First-Time Sex? Don't Worry!
Do you wonder how you can do it in the dark, with all your clothes on, because you think he might leave you once he sees the real you?
You can leave that worry behind!
Most girls have something about their figure they wish was different. Too small on top, too big in the hips, and even fat ankles make the list. If we have it, we worry about it.
Most girls have a feature they really do like a lot, though, so the first thing to do is play up that asset. If you have great hair, leave it down and make sure it shines.
If you have long legs, bring out the short skirts and high heels. Make the most of your clothes by choosing styles that hide what you want to keep hidden. Simply google "hide that" whatever it is, and you will find great advice on choosing flattering styles, even in lingerie and bathing suits.
There is also the standard advice we have all heard. He does not care as much about your figure and your body as you do. This is true. Men are used to girls in all shapes and sizes. They are curious and want to see what we look like. To men, we are not "right" or "wrong", we are either "doing it" or "not!"
Big difference. If a man loves you and is committed, he is committed to all of
you, flaws and all.
What if your worries are real and you really do have a body problem that you think will make him run when he sees it? Maybe you had ten kids with ten kids worth of stretch marks. Maybe you had a mastectomy and you don't know how he will react. Maybe you think cellulite was invented when you born. Whatever it is, those worries are real and we know how you feel. When you are concerned he might hit the road once he sees the naked truth, what do you do?
The answer is, you wait. Plain and simple. Wait, wait, wait to have sex for the first time. Make sure he is in love with you and committed to you before you do the horizontal twist.
Having sex too early might make some men hit it and quit it, but not because of your body.
He might do that because his hormones tell him to catch as many girls as he can, plant his seed and run. When you have sex before he really falls for you, it is much easier to leave you for the next girl. He might or might not use your figure flaws or missing body parts as an excuse, but why give him a reason?
For your own peace of mind, self-confidence and self-esteem, wait. Once he is hooked, once he is crazy about you, once he falls in love with you, all the cottage cheese in the world will not make him go away.
You can never go wrong by waiting. If you are certain you do not want to have sex with him unless it is pitch black dark and he has to feel his way around, then wait. If you are terrified about something he has not seen,
then wait. Do you owe it to him to disclose it before you get there? No. It is not his business until you decide the time is right. Then you can tell him without worry. He will be crazy about you and it will not matter.
Do not give too much information out about anything before he is hooked on your time and attention.
This includes talking missing body parts or extra pieces that you keep hidden. It is not something to talk about in a new dating relationship.
If you cannot imagine what will happen when you first have sex, but you dread it, then wait. If you wouldn't dream of letting him see the real you, then just wait. You can never go wrong by waiting, and you will know when the time is right.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
Send us an add on our MySpace, and Send Us a Tweet on Twitter. Remember, you can get a fast, free, personal and confidential reply to all your love problems by writing Kerry, the Love Doctor, at KerryLGray@gmail.com
You can leave that worry behind!
Most girls have something about their figure they wish was different. Too small on top, too big in the hips, and even fat ankles make the list. If we have it, we worry about it.
Most girls have a feature they really do like a lot, though, so the first thing to do is play up that asset. If you have great hair, leave it down and make sure it shines.
If you have long legs, bring out the short skirts and high heels. Make the most of your clothes by choosing styles that hide what you want to keep hidden. Simply google "hide that" whatever it is, and you will find great advice on choosing flattering styles, even in lingerie and bathing suits.
There is also the standard advice we have all heard. He does not care as much about your figure and your body as you do. This is true. Men are used to girls in all shapes and sizes. They are curious and want to see what we look like. To men, we are not "right" or "wrong", we are either "doing it" or "not!"
Big difference. If a man loves you and is committed, he is committed to all of
you, flaws and all.
What if your worries are real and you really do have a body problem that you think will make him run when he sees it? Maybe you had ten kids with ten kids worth of stretch marks. Maybe you had a mastectomy and you don't know how he will react. Maybe you think cellulite was invented when you born. Whatever it is, those worries are real and we know how you feel. When you are concerned he might hit the road once he sees the naked truth, what do you do?
The answer is, you wait. Plain and simple. Wait, wait, wait to have sex for the first time. Make sure he is in love with you and committed to you before you do the horizontal twist.
Having sex too early might make some men hit it and quit it, but not because of your body.
He might do that because his hormones tell him to catch as many girls as he can, plant his seed and run. When you have sex before he really falls for you, it is much easier to leave you for the next girl. He might or might not use your figure flaws or missing body parts as an excuse, but why give him a reason?
For your own peace of mind, self-confidence and self-esteem, wait. Once he is hooked, once he is crazy about you, once he falls in love with you, all the cottage cheese in the world will not make him go away.
You can never go wrong by waiting. If you are certain you do not want to have sex with him unless it is pitch black dark and he has to feel his way around, then wait. If you are terrified about something he has not seen,
then wait. Do you owe it to him to disclose it before you get there? No. It is not his business until you decide the time is right. Then you can tell him without worry. He will be crazy about you and it will not matter.
Do not give too much information out about anything before he is hooked on your time and attention.
This includes talking missing body parts or extra pieces that you keep hidden. It is not something to talk about in a new dating relationship.
If you cannot imagine what will happen when you first have sex, but you dread it, then wait. If you wouldn't dream of letting him see the real you, then just wait. You can never go wrong by waiting, and you will know when the time is right.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
Send us an add on our MySpace, and Send Us a Tweet on Twitter. Remember, you can get a fast, free, personal and confidential reply to all your love problems by writing Kerry, the Love Doctor, at KerryLGray@gmail.com
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