Get Closer to Your Guy After a Breakup? Here's How!
Some breakups are temporary. Couples split up and get back together, sometimes over and over again. Family and friends get tired of watching the same thing happen and their support starts to wear thin.
You can change all that. How you break up will set the stage for getting back together again. Here is a break up trick that will bring you closer together by helping your family and friends support you when you do it.
As a couple, try to make the breakup nice and peaceful and calm. You will have a huge advantage later if you can do this now. Talk together about supporting each other through this. This is a breakup trick you can agree to do together.
When friends and family ask you what happened, defend the other person instead of telling them all the ways you were wronged. This is an amazing trick. It works like this.
Lisa asks Suzie what went wrong in her relationship with John. Suzie tells Lisa all the ways John hurt her, wronged her, did not listen, did not understand, did not support her, stayed out with his friends, etc. Lisa listens and agrees. John is a bum who does not deserve a girl like Suzie. Lisa tells Suzie that she better be rid of that bum once and for all and if she even thinks about getting back together with him she will not be there for her and does not want to hear about it. Suzie now has no support for trying to fix her relationship with John.
Put this better breakup trick to work like this. Lisa asks Suzie what went wrong with John. Suzie says "the last straw for John was when I went through his cell phone and told him I didn't trust him. He said he had to be out of a relationship with no trust. I don't blame him.
Maybe I can work on trusting men more, Lisa says. Lisa is now silent. She gives the nod to John and realizes that Suzie was not perfect in the relationship. Lisa might say "you went through his phone because you were suspicious of him not telling you the truth." Suzie should then defend John again.
"I had no business going through his phone even if I was suspicious," she might say. This sets an entirely new tone of support for both the couple involved and for the friends and family who might witness them getting back together. If you want to be supported by others through breakups and reunions, figure out how to support each other even when times are rough.
When John is asked by his mother why he and Suzie broke up, John can say "the bottom line for Suzie was when I kept staying out past midnight with my buddies without calling. She said she could not stay in a relationship with such disrespect."
John's mother is then silent, and sees Suzie's side. She can sympathize with both parties, and will be more supportive when a reunion between the couple occurs.
Breaking up is hard to do. If there is any possibility of fixing the problems and getting back together, give yourself every chance to make the breakup work for you instead of against you. Turn the tables and defend each other instead of seeing it from just your side. You will be amazed at the difference this little trick will make when you get back together again.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
You can change all that. How you break up will set the stage for getting back together again. Here is a break up trick that will bring you closer together by helping your family and friends support you when you do it.
As a couple, try to make the breakup nice and peaceful and calm. You will have a huge advantage later if you can do this now. Talk together about supporting each other through this. This is a breakup trick you can agree to do together.
When friends and family ask you what happened, defend the other person instead of telling them all the ways you were wronged. This is an amazing trick. It works like this.
Lisa asks Suzie what went wrong in her relationship with John. Suzie tells Lisa all the ways John hurt her, wronged her, did not listen, did not understand, did not support her, stayed out with his friends, etc. Lisa listens and agrees. John is a bum who does not deserve a girl like Suzie. Lisa tells Suzie that she better be rid of that bum once and for all and if she even thinks about getting back together with him she will not be there for her and does not want to hear about it. Suzie now has no support for trying to fix her relationship with John.
Put this better breakup trick to work like this. Lisa asks Suzie what went wrong with John. Suzie says "the last straw for John was when I went through his cell phone and told him I didn't trust him. He said he had to be out of a relationship with no trust. I don't blame him.
Maybe I can work on trusting men more, Lisa says. Lisa is now silent. She gives the nod to John and realizes that Suzie was not perfect in the relationship. Lisa might say "you went through his phone because you were suspicious of him not telling you the truth." Suzie should then defend John again.
"I had no business going through his phone even if I was suspicious," she might say. This sets an entirely new tone of support for both the couple involved and for the friends and family who might witness them getting back together. If you want to be supported by others through breakups and reunions, figure out how to support each other even when times are rough.
When John is asked by his mother why he and Suzie broke up, John can say "the bottom line for Suzie was when I kept staying out past midnight with my buddies without calling. She said she could not stay in a relationship with such disrespect."
John's mother is then silent, and sees Suzie's side. She can sympathize with both parties, and will be more supportive when a reunion between the couple occurs.
Breaking up is hard to do. If there is any possibility of fixing the problems and getting back together, give yourself every chance to make the breakup work for you instead of against you. Turn the tables and defend each other instead of seeing it from just your side. You will be amazed at the difference this little trick will make when you get back together again.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
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