Girls, Should You Ever Call a Guy You Want to Date?
Ladies,
You should never call men. Period. There is no excuse and no reason why you should ever call a guy. Sure, if somebody dies and you have to break a date, you can call, but how often does that really ever happen? Be honest. Don't dial his number. The big plus is you will start to have a great time dating when you have a new rule of never calling men.
Why is this such a big deal? Men do not multi-task well, and when you call him, he is already in the middle of something else.
He has to stop what he is doing and pick up the phone and refocus his attention on you. This is negative attention. It is an interruption.
No matter how much he enjoys hearing from you, this kind of attention is not a good thing. If you wait until he calls you to talk, he has cleared his mind, focused his attention on you, then picked up the phone and dialed. He is ready to talk to you, and he takes the lead. He enjoys your conversation because he initiated it. This is the kind of phone conversation you want to have.
If you call him and he is busy, the call usually ends abruptly and you feel bad. You don't know if he wanted to talk or not. You don't know if he hated to be interrupted or not. You wonder if you should call him again later or not. (The answer is NO). You do not need this kind of negativity when you are dating. Don't make the call in the first place, and you won't feel bad after the call does not go well.
Be the girl that men pursue. By not calling men, you automatically become one that they chase. You have to give him space to chase you. By calling him he is not able to pursue you. You take his game away from him, so who does he call? He calls the girl who is NOT dialing his number.
Believe me. There is really no reason to ever call a man, ever! Make that rule for yourself and you will enjoy the game of dating. You will be that special girl that all the men call and chase if you let them do all the dialing. -- Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
KerryLGray@gmail.com
You should never call men. Period. There is no excuse and no reason why you should ever call a guy. Sure, if somebody dies and you have to break a date, you can call, but how often does that really ever happen? Be honest. Don't dial his number. The big plus is you will start to have a great time dating when you have a new rule of never calling men.
Why is this such a big deal? Men do not multi-task well, and when you call him, he is already in the middle of something else.
He has to stop what he is doing and pick up the phone and refocus his attention on you. This is negative attention. It is an interruption.
No matter how much he enjoys hearing from you, this kind of attention is not a good thing. If you wait until he calls you to talk, he has cleared his mind, focused his attention on you, then picked up the phone and dialed. He is ready to talk to you, and he takes the lead. He enjoys your conversation because he initiated it. This is the kind of phone conversation you want to have.
If you call him and he is busy, the call usually ends abruptly and you feel bad. You don't know if he wanted to talk or not. You don't know if he hated to be interrupted or not. You wonder if you should call him again later or not. (The answer is NO). You do not need this kind of negativity when you are dating. Don't make the call in the first place, and you won't feel bad after the call does not go well.
Be the girl that men pursue. By not calling men, you automatically become one that they chase. You have to give him space to chase you. By calling him he is not able to pursue you. You take his game away from him, so who does he call? He calls the girl who is NOT dialing his number.
Believe me. There is really no reason to ever call a man, ever! Make that rule for yourself and you will enjoy the game of dating. You will be that special girl that all the men call and chase if you let them do all the dialing. -- Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
KerryLGray@gmail.com
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