Good Break Up or Bad? Do It the Right Way!
Put it into pespective. Realize that your mission in life is to find the best person.
You will have to date a few along the way who are not perfect for you. When you realize
the relationship does not have potential or is not what you are looking for, let it go.
Don't hang on long after you realize he is not right for you. Cut your losses and end it. One way to make this easier is to not get
too serious in the beginning of every relationship. Don't obsess about every new date and daydream about marrying him.
Be casual and let each relationship unfold. Don't sleep with new men quickly, because that
creates deep emotional attachment even if he is not right for you. Do not get too serious
with every new guy, and end it as soon as you realize he is not the one.
Be nice when you do it. Don't talk bad about the ex, spread rumors or dis him on the internet. Take the high road and simply say "it didn't work out, but we are friends and wish each other the best." This approach will reward you every single time.
Tell friends and family immediately so you have their support. When you are tempted to call or text the ex, call one of them instead. Having a network like this will help you get through the "maybe it could have worked out" stage. That is the stage when you strangely remember all the good things and
none of the bad. This is called "idealizing" or "romanticising" the ex. Resist doing it by making a list of all the things that were wrong and why you know it won't work out.
Give yourself time for your heart to catch up with your head. This is probably the hardest part of a breakup. Your head knows it is over, but your heart still longs for the ex. This can feel like torture, but there is a quick
way to get over it. NO CONTACT with the ex will help your heart catch up to your head quickly. This means no texting, no phone
calls, no drive-bys and no bumping into him accidentally on purpose.
This also means taking him off your top friends list, not checking out his profiles online, and not hearing about him through the grapevine. Help yourself heal by giving yourself the gift of no contact.
Within days, your heart will start to relax while it works to catch up with your head. After thirty days of no contact your heart will agree with your head, that the breakup was best. Now you feel ready for the next great guy to date, and who knows?
Mr. Right is always right around the corner, waiting for you. Don't waste time staying in a relationship that is wrong for you. Put your big girl panties on and accept that breakups are a fact of life. Then get ready to jump -- away from Mr. Wrong and into the arms of Mr. Right.
--Kerry L. Gray
You will have to date a few along the way who are not perfect for you. When you realize
the relationship does not have potential or is not what you are looking for, let it go.
Don't hang on long after you realize he is not right for you. Cut your losses and end it. One way to make this easier is to not get
too serious in the beginning of every relationship. Don't obsess about every new date and daydream about marrying him.
Be casual and let each relationship unfold. Don't sleep with new men quickly, because that
creates deep emotional attachment even if he is not right for you. Do not get too serious
with every new guy, and end it as soon as you realize he is not the one.
Be nice when you do it. Don't talk bad about the ex, spread rumors or dis him on the internet. Take the high road and simply say "it didn't work out, but we are friends and wish each other the best." This approach will reward you every single time.
Tell friends and family immediately so you have their support. When you are tempted to call or text the ex, call one of them instead. Having a network like this will help you get through the "maybe it could have worked out" stage. That is the stage when you strangely remember all the good things and
none of the bad. This is called "idealizing" or "romanticising" the ex. Resist doing it by making a list of all the things that were wrong and why you know it won't work out.
Give yourself time for your heart to catch up with your head. This is probably the hardest part of a breakup. Your head knows it is over, but your heart still longs for the ex. This can feel like torture, but there is a quick
way to get over it. NO CONTACT with the ex will help your heart catch up to your head quickly. This means no texting, no phone
calls, no drive-bys and no bumping into him accidentally on purpose.
This also means taking him off your top friends list, not checking out his profiles online, and not hearing about him through the grapevine. Help yourself heal by giving yourself the gift of no contact.
Within days, your heart will start to relax while it works to catch up with your head. After thirty days of no contact your heart will agree with your head, that the breakup was best. Now you feel ready for the next great guy to date, and who knows?
Mr. Right is always right around the corner, waiting for you. Don't waste time staying in a relationship that is wrong for you. Put your big girl panties on and accept that breakups are a fact of life. Then get ready to jump -- away from Mr. Wrong and into the arms of Mr. Right.
--Kerry L. Gray
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