Guy Stuff: Keep Her or Deal Breaker?
Does she quiz you all the time for details of where you have been, what you did and who you were with? This is a sign she might be possessive and jealous. She should only ask "how was your day?" and take your answer and leave it at that. She should trust that you will share with her the important
things when you are ready to.
Has she talked about your future together, marriage and kids, prematurely? Did she bring it up the first weekend you went out? Lots of girls do this, and if yours does it, it does not mean she is not a great girl.
It might mean she is insecure and looking for a sign from you that she is not wasting her time. Tell her you like her a lot for now and you will see where things go, then drop it. If she won't drop it, you might have to drop her.
Does she stalk your MySpace and Facebook and get mad about posts, comments, and girls pics? This is a bad sign. She has no business trolling your site and then getting mad or jealous about what you have up. All girls are going to look at your profile, and they will probably send you an add or try to friend you to keep tabs on you.
You can let her do this, but don't let her get mad about what you decide to put on your page or who you have as friends. You are your own man, and you have to man up here. Simply tell her you will not tolerate it.
A girl like this will try to run your life, and you don't need a new mommy or a sheriff. If you are blatantly lying to her and then posting proof of your lies, she will look and she will ask you. That is another story. Even then, she should not blow up, she should just quietly dump you.
Does she have fits of rage? If she does, then this probably worries you for all the right reasons. Get out. Especially do not tolerate this over and over again, breaking up and getting back together. You deserve a sane, calm, normal girlfriend, so insist on it and dump her if she throws fits and temper tantrums.
Most girls who do this do it all their lives, meaning, it is a hard habit to change without therapy. Does she try to make you jealous, or tell you how all the guys are after her? This means major insecurity.
Does she have a sexually promiscuous past or come on too strong sexually? She might just be misguided, or she really might give you a lifelong STD! Talk to her about it and let her know you value her sexuality, and you hope she is discriminating about what she does and who she does it with, both now and in the future.
Tell her how special she is and make her believe it so she can relax and enjoy your new relationship. Sometimes girls try too hard to throw sex out there because they want to date a guy. They think all the girls act that way and they need to in order to keep him interested. Sad but true. Reassure her that is not the case with you, and you can take it slow because she is important. That is the way to win her heart.
Always, always use protection until you are certain you are monogamous for at least six months and have both been tested twice. If you are having sex you have to be grown up. Carrying *** or HIV or venereal warts around has a permanent, sobering, and negative impact on your sex life. Protect yourself.
Does your new girl constantly ask you to do things for her like run errands, wait on her, spend money for her, and buy her things? A girl might have several guys on a string, doing things like bringing her lunch, even when she has already eaten, or buying her gifts, even if she already has it and does not need it. Girls do this just to prove they can.
There are many nice girls out there who do not do this, but there are a few bad apples who want to see what they can get from all the guys. If you are constantly on the run this way to try to please her, she is giving you a big red flag. Pay attention to it.
All is fair in love and war, and you want a cool, laid back girlfriend, not an insecure, possessive, jealous stalker or a nut!
Watch out for these red flags and run the other way when you see them.
Guys, do you have any deal breakers and red flags to share with your bro's? If you do, send them to us! We want to hear what they are! Write them to us and we will share them with our readers here on Don't Date Him Girl.com.
Write Kerry, the Love Doctor at KerryLGray@gmail.com. Send us a Tweet on Twitter at Officialddhg, and let us hear about your red flags that are a deal breaker for you!
things when you are ready to.
Has she talked about your future together, marriage and kids, prematurely? Did she bring it up the first weekend you went out? Lots of girls do this, and if yours does it, it does not mean she is not a great girl.
It might mean she is insecure and looking for a sign from you that she is not wasting her time. Tell her you like her a lot for now and you will see where things go, then drop it. If she won't drop it, you might have to drop her.
Does she stalk your MySpace and Facebook and get mad about posts, comments, and girls pics? This is a bad sign. She has no business trolling your site and then getting mad or jealous about what you have up. All girls are going to look at your profile, and they will probably send you an add or try to friend you to keep tabs on you.
You can let her do this, but don't let her get mad about what you decide to put on your page or who you have as friends. You are your own man, and you have to man up here. Simply tell her you will not tolerate it.
A girl like this will try to run your life, and you don't need a new mommy or a sheriff. If you are blatantly lying to her and then posting proof of your lies, she will look and she will ask you. That is another story. Even then, she should not blow up, she should just quietly dump you.
Does she have fits of rage? If she does, then this probably worries you for all the right reasons. Get out. Especially do not tolerate this over and over again, breaking up and getting back together. You deserve a sane, calm, normal girlfriend, so insist on it and dump her if she throws fits and temper tantrums.
Most girls who do this do it all their lives, meaning, it is a hard habit to change without therapy. Does she try to make you jealous, or tell you how all the guys are after her? This means major insecurity.
Does she have a sexually promiscuous past or come on too strong sexually? She might just be misguided, or she really might give you a lifelong STD! Talk to her about it and let her know you value her sexuality, and you hope she is discriminating about what she does and who she does it with, both now and in the future.
Tell her how special she is and make her believe it so she can relax and enjoy your new relationship. Sometimes girls try too hard to throw sex out there because they want to date a guy. They think all the girls act that way and they need to in order to keep him interested. Sad but true. Reassure her that is not the case with you, and you can take it slow because she is important. That is the way to win her heart.
Always, always use protection until you are certain you are monogamous for at least six months and have both been tested twice. If you are having sex you have to be grown up. Carrying *** or HIV or venereal warts around has a permanent, sobering, and negative impact on your sex life. Protect yourself.
Does your new girl constantly ask you to do things for her like run errands, wait on her, spend money for her, and buy her things? A girl might have several guys on a string, doing things like bringing her lunch, even when she has already eaten, or buying her gifts, even if she already has it and does not need it. Girls do this just to prove they can.
There are many nice girls out there who do not do this, but there are a few bad apples who want to see what they can get from all the guys. If you are constantly on the run this way to try to please her, she is giving you a big red flag. Pay attention to it.
All is fair in love and war, and you want a cool, laid back girlfriend, not an insecure, possessive, jealous stalker or a nut!
Watch out for these red flags and run the other way when you see them.
Guys, do you have any deal breakers and red flags to share with your bro's? If you do, send them to us! We want to hear what they are! Write them to us and we will share them with our readers here on Don't Date Him Girl.com.
Write Kerry, the Love Doctor at KerryLGray@gmail.com. Send us a Tweet on Twitter at Officialddhg, and let us hear about your red flags that are a deal breaker for you!
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