Hey Ladies! Does Your Guy Have This Syndrome?
Almost every guy suffers from the Next Best Thing Syndrome. Is your man one of them? What can you do if he is?
Most men suffer from The Next Best Thing Syndrome. No matter how beautiful, sexy, hot and gorgeous the woman in front of them is -- and that is you, by the way -- these men believe there is an even hotter, more beautiful, more interesting and better girl coming around the corner, headed right their way.
This is a truly remarkable trait that is characteristic of men aged 18 to 99. Before the age of 18 they feel grateful to have any girl at all. After the age of 99 they have finally had their fill.
Your man might suffer from this if his head swivels in all directions every time another girl aged 16 to 60 walks by. Amazingly, he can do this even when you are engaged in
a full on lip locked french kiss.
There is little you can do about this except agree with him. Say something like, "boy,she's hot, I wish she was my girlfriend." Then let him do the math.
For your long term future, however, the Next Best Thing Syndrome can play out in a man who refuses to put much emotional investment into moving your relationship forward. It can also be the guy who puts you on a five or ten year installment plan.
He plans to talk about marriage in a year or two, then will think about a ring for a year or two, then might ask you to marry him in a year or two, then you can be engaged for a year or two...YAWN!
What can you do when your long term man will not come up with a long term plan because
he is waiting for the Next Best Thing?
Keep it light and keep your sense of humor. Do not give him all of your time, energy and attention. Cut him back from most of your time to hardly any time. You have your life to get on with, after all. He might not be the Next Best Thing for you, either!
Let him know with actions, not words, that you can walk if you need to because baby, you ARE the Next Best Thing. When he goes home alone for a night or two, he will get the message. Men are great at figuring out the obvious. They really do know what is up when this comes down.
Get realistic with your own goals and do not let him be the determiner of your plans. If you want kids before the age of thirty, say so, then drop it. He knows what he is supposed
to do. If he doesn't step up to the plate then step out of the ball game.
Let him figure out on his own that the Next Best Thing coming around the corner was YOU, and he will come around.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
Most men suffer from The Next Best Thing Syndrome. No matter how beautiful, sexy, hot and gorgeous the woman in front of them is -- and that is you, by the way -- these men believe there is an even hotter, more beautiful, more interesting and better girl coming around the corner, headed right their way.
This is a truly remarkable trait that is characteristic of men aged 18 to 99. Before the age of 18 they feel grateful to have any girl at all. After the age of 99 they have finally had their fill.
Your man might suffer from this if his head swivels in all directions every time another girl aged 16 to 60 walks by. Amazingly, he can do this even when you are engaged in
a full on lip locked french kiss.
There is little you can do about this except agree with him. Say something like, "boy,she's hot, I wish she was my girlfriend." Then let him do the math.
For your long term future, however, the Next Best Thing Syndrome can play out in a man who refuses to put much emotional investment into moving your relationship forward. It can also be the guy who puts you on a five or ten year installment plan.
He plans to talk about marriage in a year or two, then will think about a ring for a year or two, then might ask you to marry him in a year or two, then you can be engaged for a year or two...YAWN!
What can you do when your long term man will not come up with a long term plan because
he is waiting for the Next Best Thing?
Keep it light and keep your sense of humor. Do not give him all of your time, energy and attention. Cut him back from most of your time to hardly any time. You have your life to get on with, after all. He might not be the Next Best Thing for you, either!
Let him know with actions, not words, that you can walk if you need to because baby, you ARE the Next Best Thing. When he goes home alone for a night or two, he will get the message. Men are great at figuring out the obvious. They really do know what is up when this comes down.
Get realistic with your own goals and do not let him be the determiner of your plans. If you want kids before the age of thirty, say so, then drop it. He knows what he is supposed
to do. If he doesn't step up to the plate then step out of the ball game.
Let him figure out on his own that the Next Best Thing coming around the corner was YOU, and he will come around.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
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