How to Manage Your Man's Sex Life
What's the difference between men and women? It's a tough question that doesn't have just one answer. Or so I thought when my friend asked me. She insisted there was just one. A woman wants one man to satisfy her every need, but a man wants every woman to satisfy his one need. That need? Sex, of course!
Men love sex. Not exactly earth-shattering news, but I bet you would be shocked to learn exactly how much time your man spends each day thinking about fellatio, fornication, french kissing and other assorted sex acts.
Roughly speaking, your sweetheart's sex time breaks down something like this - every 52 seconds he has a sexual thought.
Whether it's positions, porn or places to do it, your Mr. Perfect is thinking about sex literally every minute of the day and in case you're counting, that's 1,440 times every 24 hours.
Although your Knight in Shining Armor has sex on the brain all day, he's actually only doing it 2.2 times each week, excluding masturbation. That, he does a whopping 11 times a week! Incredible! Twice each week, though, Loverboy puts his hand away and has full-blown intercourse with you. And while you might think your Adonis easily gives you at least a half hour of pleasure every time he whips out his manhood, he's really only sexing it up for a measly 15 minutes each time.
Shocked yet? I'll give you a minute to catch your breath. See, it's not that bad.
You now know that your man thinks about sex every minute every minute of the day, but actually does the deed for just over 15 minutes roughly twice a week.
So don't waste a moment. The clock is ticking and you've got a lot to do. Let's get started this second and show you how to manage Mr. Right's sex life!
Being a good man manager isn't easy, particularly when you're managing someone else's time. In this chapter, I'm going to break down the Man Management Techniques that will make it easy for you to get his sex life under your control.
These are not traditional sex techniques, however. I'm not going to tell you how to entice your man into a sex romp every once in a while. Instead, I'll tell you how to manage your man's schedule so that you create opportunities for intimacy and spontaneity, the key ingredients in the elixir of hot sex and happiness, all without ever having to take your clothes off! Let's begin, shall we?
As you read this chapter, imagine that you are your lover's secretary. Not the kind that answers his office phone and sorts his mail. Think of yourself as Mr. Wonderful's sex secretary, the woman who pencils in his penis time. Sadly, you don't get paid a salary - at least not in the George Washington sense. You do get the fantastic benefits of having a killer sex life, though.
And the other good thing is your honey pie will have no idea that you're practicing the man management techniques you'll learn in this book. This makes it a lot easier for you to achieve your goal of getting his sex life under your sole control.
I know what you're thinking. You probably believe it's impossible to manage your baby's sex life. After all, who ever heard of such a thing – a woman managing the time her guy spends on sex?
It's actually quite simple. Managing your baby's sex life is really all about managing the time he spends thinking about, having or hoping to have sex with you. I know it sounds daunting, but it's actually pretty easy. In fact, there are only three things you need to do to get his sex life under your control.
That's right, ladies, just three simple Man Management techniques that will make managing your darling's sex life a breeze.
MAN MANAGEMENT SEX TECHNIQUE #1 –
Talk Dirty to Him. Sit him down and find out what he likes in the bedroom. Ask him how often he would like it, what positions he like to have you in and what else he'd like you to do to him to make him feel good. Before you do this, however, we've got to have a little talk, just you and I, girl to girl. In a committed relationship, realize that you may not like the words you hear coming out of your man's mouth when he answers your sex questions. For instance, if you ask him what his favorite positions are and he tells you doggie-style really rocks his world, but you're repulsed by the mere mention of it, you're going to have to compromise. That's what being in a committed relationship is all about.
On DontDateHimGirl.com, one of the most common laments by women is the lack of sex that they're having in their relationships. "My guy and I used to have sex at least four times a week," wrote LoveIsGone75. "But now we're lucky if we have sex four times a year."
For a woman in that situation, that's not a whole lot of time to manage, but it doesn't have to be that way. You can take control of your man's sex schedule and increase that four times a year to four times a day if you follow the Man Management techniques outlined below.
In the DDHG forums, women talk about ways to spice up their sex lives, but to no avail. "I wish I knew how to make my guy notice that I'm in the relationship and I want sex," wrote LonelyHeart520. "He's not interested anymore and I think he's bored."
Women always worry about what happens when they guy gets bored with them. Instead, realize that it's not your responsibility to entertain your man. As women, do we not get bored by our Prince Charmings? Of course we do! But that's not his problem. It's ours. Look at boredom as a lull in the action, a perfect time to invest in spicing up your sex life. The Man Management Sex Techniques in this chapter will show you how to resuscitate your ailing sex life with a simple infusion of spontaneity and seduction.
MAN MANAGEMENT SEX TECHNIQUE #2 -
Keep the Focus of the Action on Him, Not You. Keep in mind, this sex chat is about what he likes. So when he tells you about doggie, don't tell him you refuse to get on all fours. Instead, tell him you're open to trying it with him. I know, I know. You don't like it but it's imperative that you refrain from judging him for the sex he likes. If he feels judged, he won't be as open with you about his desires. Here's another tip, when you ask your man about his ideal sexcapades, don't do it like a police detective interrogating a witness. You won't get the answers you want that way. You're a secretary, not a cop, remember?
It's best to time your chat just prior to a sex session. Approach him in a relaxed, sultry manner with his favorite cocktail in your hand, your most beloved stilettos on your feet and little else. This will certainly get him to stand at attention.
MAN MANAGEMENT SEX TECHNIQUE #3 -
Create an irresistible sex schedule. The easiest way to do this is to keep in mind that you're not really scheduling time to have sex with your man. You're scheduling spontaneity. Think about it. Men love getting sex when they least expect it. When do you and your guy have sex? If it's when you're both exhausted and the kids are in bed, you're not having much sex. So clearly, this is not a good time to schedule a raucous romp between the sheets with your man.
I know what you're thinking, how can you schedule something that's supposed to be spontaneous? Employ this Man Management 101 technique for penciling in passionate sex into your man's schedule – if your man takes his lunch break every afternoon at the same time, show up one day armed with his favorite food and whisk him away to a motel, park or even the back seat of his car for little sultry action. He will love this! Even if you don't have sex, use this time to tease him. Choose a few days each week that you spend getting your man all hot and bothered. Every Tuesday, for example, start the morning with a naught text message when he's on his way to work. Tell him what you plan to do to him the moment he walks through the door. You could even text him with sexy questions and ask him to choose his answers based on your tempting suggestions. A good rule of thumb is to set aside an hour or two each week and plan a "spontaneous" lovemaking session with your man. Get creative and show him just how sexy, fun and fearless you can be!
I guarantee that through the day, your man will be so worked up wondering what to expect when he gets home, that he won't be able to keep his hands off of you. The trick to this technique is not to schedule the same days each week to do this. Vary the routine and add instant spontaneity to his sex schedule.
I know, you're wondering why you're the one who has to do all the work. Don't think of it as work, honey. Think of it as you doing your share to keep your relationship with your hot. Your man's got to do his share, too. You can't do it alone. That's very important.
To help, there's a checklist at the end of this book that will give you a clear picture of whether or not your man is keeping us his end of the relationship bargain with you. If he is, you've got to do your part, too, ladies! Good luck!
What do you think of our Man Management techniques? Tell us on the DDHG blog!
http://dontdatehimgirl.com/blog/
Men love sex. Not exactly earth-shattering news, but I bet you would be shocked to learn exactly how much time your man spends each day thinking about fellatio, fornication, french kissing and other assorted sex acts.
Roughly speaking, your sweetheart's sex time breaks down something like this - every 52 seconds he has a sexual thought.
Whether it's positions, porn or places to do it, your Mr. Perfect is thinking about sex literally every minute of the day and in case you're counting, that's 1,440 times every 24 hours.
Although your Knight in Shining Armor has sex on the brain all day, he's actually only doing it 2.2 times each week, excluding masturbation. That, he does a whopping 11 times a week! Incredible! Twice each week, though, Loverboy puts his hand away and has full-blown intercourse with you. And while you might think your Adonis easily gives you at least a half hour of pleasure every time he whips out his manhood, he's really only sexing it up for a measly 15 minutes each time.
Shocked yet? I'll give you a minute to catch your breath. See, it's not that bad.
You now know that your man thinks about sex every minute every minute of the day, but actually does the deed for just over 15 minutes roughly twice a week.
So don't waste a moment. The clock is ticking and you've got a lot to do. Let's get started this second and show you how to manage Mr. Right's sex life!
Being a good man manager isn't easy, particularly when you're managing someone else's time. In this chapter, I'm going to break down the Man Management Techniques that will make it easy for you to get his sex life under your control.
These are not traditional sex techniques, however. I'm not going to tell you how to entice your man into a sex romp every once in a while. Instead, I'll tell you how to manage your man's schedule so that you create opportunities for intimacy and spontaneity, the key ingredients in the elixir of hot sex and happiness, all without ever having to take your clothes off! Let's begin, shall we?
As you read this chapter, imagine that you are your lover's secretary. Not the kind that answers his office phone and sorts his mail. Think of yourself as Mr. Wonderful's sex secretary, the woman who pencils in his penis time. Sadly, you don't get paid a salary - at least not in the George Washington sense. You do get the fantastic benefits of having a killer sex life, though.
And the other good thing is your honey pie will have no idea that you're practicing the man management techniques you'll learn in this book. This makes it a lot easier for you to achieve your goal of getting his sex life under your sole control.
I know what you're thinking. You probably believe it's impossible to manage your baby's sex life. After all, who ever heard of such a thing – a woman managing the time her guy spends on sex?
It's actually quite simple. Managing your baby's sex life is really all about managing the time he spends thinking about, having or hoping to have sex with you. I know it sounds daunting, but it's actually pretty easy. In fact, there are only three things you need to do to get his sex life under your control.
That's right, ladies, just three simple Man Management techniques that will make managing your darling's sex life a breeze.
MAN MANAGEMENT SEX TECHNIQUE #1 –
Talk Dirty to Him. Sit him down and find out what he likes in the bedroom. Ask him how often he would like it, what positions he like to have you in and what else he'd like you to do to him to make him feel good. Before you do this, however, we've got to have a little talk, just you and I, girl to girl. In a committed relationship, realize that you may not like the words you hear coming out of your man's mouth when he answers your sex questions. For instance, if you ask him what his favorite positions are and he tells you doggie-style really rocks his world, but you're repulsed by the mere mention of it, you're going to have to compromise. That's what being in a committed relationship is all about.
On DontDateHimGirl.com, one of the most common laments by women is the lack of sex that they're having in their relationships. "My guy and I used to have sex at least four times a week," wrote LoveIsGone75. "But now we're lucky if we have sex four times a year."
For a woman in that situation, that's not a whole lot of time to manage, but it doesn't have to be that way. You can take control of your man's sex schedule and increase that four times a year to four times a day if you follow the Man Management techniques outlined below.
In the DDHG forums, women talk about ways to spice up their sex lives, but to no avail. "I wish I knew how to make my guy notice that I'm in the relationship and I want sex," wrote LonelyHeart520. "He's not interested anymore and I think he's bored."
Women always worry about what happens when they guy gets bored with them. Instead, realize that it's not your responsibility to entertain your man. As women, do we not get bored by our Prince Charmings? Of course we do! But that's not his problem. It's ours. Look at boredom as a lull in the action, a perfect time to invest in spicing up your sex life. The Man Management Sex Techniques in this chapter will show you how to resuscitate your ailing sex life with a simple infusion of spontaneity and seduction.
MAN MANAGEMENT SEX TECHNIQUE #2 -
Keep the Focus of the Action on Him, Not You. Keep in mind, this sex chat is about what he likes. So when he tells you about doggie, don't tell him you refuse to get on all fours. Instead, tell him you're open to trying it with him. I know, I know. You don't like it but it's imperative that you refrain from judging him for the sex he likes. If he feels judged, he won't be as open with you about his desires. Here's another tip, when you ask your man about his ideal sexcapades, don't do it like a police detective interrogating a witness. You won't get the answers you want that way. You're a secretary, not a cop, remember?
It's best to time your chat just prior to a sex session. Approach him in a relaxed, sultry manner with his favorite cocktail in your hand, your most beloved stilettos on your feet and little else. This will certainly get him to stand at attention.
MAN MANAGEMENT SEX TECHNIQUE #3 -
Create an irresistible sex schedule. The easiest way to do this is to keep in mind that you're not really scheduling time to have sex with your man. You're scheduling spontaneity. Think about it. Men love getting sex when they least expect it. When do you and your guy have sex? If it's when you're both exhausted and the kids are in bed, you're not having much sex. So clearly, this is not a good time to schedule a raucous romp between the sheets with your man.
I know what you're thinking, how can you schedule something that's supposed to be spontaneous? Employ this Man Management 101 technique for penciling in passionate sex into your man's schedule – if your man takes his lunch break every afternoon at the same time, show up one day armed with his favorite food and whisk him away to a motel, park or even the back seat of his car for little sultry action. He will love this! Even if you don't have sex, use this time to tease him. Choose a few days each week that you spend getting your man all hot and bothered. Every Tuesday, for example, start the morning with a naught text message when he's on his way to work. Tell him what you plan to do to him the moment he walks through the door. You could even text him with sexy questions and ask him to choose his answers based on your tempting suggestions. A good rule of thumb is to set aside an hour or two each week and plan a "spontaneous" lovemaking session with your man. Get creative and show him just how sexy, fun and fearless you can be!
I guarantee that through the day, your man will be so worked up wondering what to expect when he gets home, that he won't be able to keep his hands off of you. The trick to this technique is not to schedule the same days each week to do this. Vary the routine and add instant spontaneity to his sex schedule.
I know, you're wondering why you're the one who has to do all the work. Don't think of it as work, honey. Think of it as you doing your share to keep your relationship with your hot. Your man's got to do his share, too. You can't do it alone. That's very important.
To help, there's a checklist at the end of this book that will give you a clear picture of whether or not your man is keeping us his end of the relationship bargain with you. If he is, you've got to do your part, too, ladies! Good luck!
What do you think of our Man Management techniques? Tell us on the DDHG blog!
http://dontdatehimgirl.com/blog/
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