If Your Guy Cheats Once, Should You Dump Him?
If you dump him the first time he cheats, it will be the only time he cheats on you. That alone makes kicking him to the curb worth it.
When he cheats on you, it means he has a basic disregard and disrespect for you and who you are. It is built into your relationship and is part of who he is as a person. The odds are stacked against that ever changing. He probably cannot learn to respect you.
It is something he either does or does not do. It is a quality he either has or does not have. If you know he does not respect you, do not try to fight it. Get out of the relationship. Do not waste your time trying to convince him to change. It will not work.
You have the right to information so you can make the best choice for you. If you knew he was cheating, would you keep him or leave him?
Most guys know that you would dump him, so they lie. By lying, he takes away your basic right to choose to stay or go.
If he is cheating and you do not know it, you cannot choose to be with him or not, because he has taken that information away from you and hidden it from you. No one has the right to do that to another person. You have the right to information so you can make an informed choice.
You have the right to know if he is seeing someone else or not so you can choose what is best for you. When he cheats and lies, he has taken away your informed choice. He has no fundamental respect or concern for your well-being. Ditch him.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Sociologists have found this to be true. The numbers of cheating married men in this country prove it.
Do you want to be married, home with a crying baby, and wondering where he is because he cheated on your while you were dating and you suspect he is doing it again? Nothing is worth that.
Life is painful and hard enough without choosing that kind of heartache, especially if he gives you full warning that he is a cheater while you are dating. If he cheats, do not marry him. Dump him!
How does a girl protect herself from cheaters when everybody is doing it? Hold yourself out as the prize you are. Do not sleep with him early and do not give him your heart until he earns it. When he has to work hard to get it, he will cherish it and protect it. Sleeping with him before he earns it will contribute to him looking for others to cheat with while he keeps you dangling on a string.
If you catch him lying about other things before he even cheats, don't even think twice. Break up with him immediately. Move on to the next great guy who will protect your heart, cherish your love and respect you as a person. You might have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince.
The lesson is, don't keep the frogs, and don't marry one either! Wait for the prince. There are millions of great guys out there. Do not settle for a liar and a cheater. Demand better for yourself, and you will find it.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
KerryLGray@gmail.com
When he cheats on you, it means he has a basic disregard and disrespect for you and who you are. It is built into your relationship and is part of who he is as a person. The odds are stacked against that ever changing. He probably cannot learn to respect you.
It is something he either does or does not do. It is a quality he either has or does not have. If you know he does not respect you, do not try to fight it. Get out of the relationship. Do not waste your time trying to convince him to change. It will not work.
You have the right to information so you can make the best choice for you. If you knew he was cheating, would you keep him or leave him?
Most guys know that you would dump him, so they lie. By lying, he takes away your basic right to choose to stay or go.
If he is cheating and you do not know it, you cannot choose to be with him or not, because he has taken that information away from you and hidden it from you. No one has the right to do that to another person. You have the right to information so you can make an informed choice.
You have the right to know if he is seeing someone else or not so you can choose what is best for you. When he cheats and lies, he has taken away your informed choice. He has no fundamental respect or concern for your well-being. Ditch him.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Sociologists have found this to be true. The numbers of cheating married men in this country prove it.
Do you want to be married, home with a crying baby, and wondering where he is because he cheated on your while you were dating and you suspect he is doing it again? Nothing is worth that.
Life is painful and hard enough without choosing that kind of heartache, especially if he gives you full warning that he is a cheater while you are dating. If he cheats, do not marry him. Dump him!
How does a girl protect herself from cheaters when everybody is doing it? Hold yourself out as the prize you are. Do not sleep with him early and do not give him your heart until he earns it. When he has to work hard to get it, he will cherish it and protect it. Sleeping with him before he earns it will contribute to him looking for others to cheat with while he keeps you dangling on a string.
If you catch him lying about other things before he even cheats, don't even think twice. Break up with him immediately. Move on to the next great guy who will protect your heart, cherish your love and respect you as a person. You might have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince.
The lesson is, don't keep the frogs, and don't marry one either! Wait for the prince. There are millions of great guys out there. Do not settle for a liar and a cheater. Demand better for yourself, and you will find it.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
KerryLGray@gmail.com
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