Should You Ditch a "Perfect" Boyfriend Who Loves Porn?
Dear DDHG,
I have a fiancé who is awesome. He is so sweet and nice and has never cheated on me. But there's one problem - he loves porn.
He is 38 and I am 26 so he is set in his ways. But when he watches it makes me feel low, like he is not happy with me. I told him how I feel and he says he will try to stop and he does. But then after a while he is right back to it. He always gets caught.
To me it is cheating if you're lusting over someone who is not me. It is cheating in the heart. But I am in love. What should I do? Thanks, Miss Confused
Dear Miss Confused -
I'm going to give it to you straight from a guy's point of view. You seem to have a great guy on your hands – someone who doesn't cheat or lie to you. He's not cheating on you. He's just got one issue - he likes to watch porn. Here's a novel idea you might want to try. How about watching porn together?
If you catch him watching it, instead of making it out like he just committed a crime, join him and turn it into a really fun time for both of you.
Even guys in committed relationships watch porn from time to time, but it's usually with their significant other. That's what makes it fun. He's not watching it because he wants to make you feel low.
That's an issue you've got to deal with within yourself. Join him the next time he watches it. Try it and let me know how it goes. I bet this will be a change in your love life for the better. - The Average Guy
I have a fiancé who is awesome. He is so sweet and nice and has never cheated on me. But there's one problem - he loves porn.
He is 38 and I am 26 so he is set in his ways. But when he watches it makes me feel low, like he is not happy with me. I told him how I feel and he says he will try to stop and he does. But then after a while he is right back to it. He always gets caught.
To me it is cheating if you're lusting over someone who is not me. It is cheating in the heart. But I am in love. What should I do? Thanks, Miss Confused
Dear Miss Confused -
I'm going to give it to you straight from a guy's point of view. You seem to have a great guy on your hands – someone who doesn't cheat or lie to you. He's not cheating on you. He's just got one issue - he likes to watch porn. Here's a novel idea you might want to try. How about watching porn together?
If you catch him watching it, instead of making it out like he just committed a crime, join him and turn it into a really fun time for both of you.
Even guys in committed relationships watch porn from time to time, but it's usually with their significant other. That's what makes it fun. He's not watching it because he wants to make you feel low.
That's an issue you've got to deal with within yourself. Join him the next time he watches it. Try it and let me know how it goes. I bet this will be a change in your love life for the better. - The Average Guy
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