What Do Girls Really Want in a Date and a Mate?
First, they want a little of your time. Girls do not like to be rushed. They want you to spend time talking, listening and hanging out.
It is a myth that girls want to jeopardize all your time, they just want a little of it focused on them.
If you give them your undivided attention for a while they won't mind when you go off to hang with your homies or do guy stuff. It is when you don't give a girl enough time that she starts to wonder if you are really into her or not. Let her know you like her by giving her some undivided attention every day.
Next, a girl wants to be accepted for who she is. She wants to be enough just like she is.
If you constantly compare her to other girls, she will not have the confidence that comes from knowing she is enough. Confidence breeds peace, calmness, joy and love. Giving her that makes you a great guy!
If you let her know she is perfect like she is, she will relax. She will not be insecure and clingy. She will be a great date and mate for you! If you tell her she is fat, that her butt is too big and things like that, she won't be happy. You two will not be able to get in a good groove, have fun and move forward. If you really do not like her like she is, move on.
Last, but not least, girls want you to understand that they are not SuperWoman. Girls can not do it all. Something happened when women's liberation happened in this country. Men and women started believing that women can and should do it everything. The truth is, they simply can't. We started believing that a woman should work all day at a job, but still keep a perfect house, raise perfect children, have the perfect social life and look fabulous all the time.
Guys need to realize that this is a myth. It hurts women to believe that a wife should be able to do all that and more. Some girls do not want to get a PhD and get ahead in the business world. Other girls don't want to stay home and keep a perfect house and raise kids. All girls, though, usually cannot do all of those things at once.
If you keep expecting your girl to be SuperWoman, you are setting both of you up for a disappointment. Talk realistically about how much one person can do, and really listen to her goals and dreams. Support her in what she really wants to do. Make it clear to her what things you value and which of those things you really do not care about. Get realistic in what you expect from her.
After all, no one thinks that men should be able to work a professional job while keeping a perfect house, perfect kids, a busy social life and be ripped, buff and handsome all the time. Why does our society think women should?
If you give your girl these three things, you will be a great date and turn into a great mate. Any girl would be lucky to have you!
Keep it real, and keep coming back to Don't Date Him Girl!
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
It is a myth that girls want to jeopardize all your time, they just want a little of it focused on them.
If you give them your undivided attention for a while they won't mind when you go off to hang with your homies or do guy stuff. It is when you don't give a girl enough time that she starts to wonder if you are really into her or not. Let her know you like her by giving her some undivided attention every day.
Next, a girl wants to be accepted for who she is. She wants to be enough just like she is.
If you constantly compare her to other girls, she will not have the confidence that comes from knowing she is enough. Confidence breeds peace, calmness, joy and love. Giving her that makes you a great guy!
If you let her know she is perfect like she is, she will relax. She will not be insecure and clingy. She will be a great date and mate for you! If you tell her she is fat, that her butt is too big and things like that, she won't be happy. You two will not be able to get in a good groove, have fun and move forward. If you really do not like her like she is, move on.
Last, but not least, girls want you to understand that they are not SuperWoman. Girls can not do it all. Something happened when women's liberation happened in this country. Men and women started believing that women can and should do it everything. The truth is, they simply can't. We started believing that a woman should work all day at a job, but still keep a perfect house, raise perfect children, have the perfect social life and look fabulous all the time.
Guys need to realize that this is a myth. It hurts women to believe that a wife should be able to do all that and more. Some girls do not want to get a PhD and get ahead in the business world. Other girls don't want to stay home and keep a perfect house and raise kids. All girls, though, usually cannot do all of those things at once.
If you keep expecting your girl to be SuperWoman, you are setting both of you up for a disappointment. Talk realistically about how much one person can do, and really listen to her goals and dreams. Support her in what she really wants to do. Make it clear to her what things you value and which of those things you really do not care about. Get realistic in what you expect from her.
After all, no one thinks that men should be able to work a professional job while keeping a perfect house, perfect kids, a busy social life and be ripped, buff and handsome all the time. Why does our society think women should?
If you give your girl these three things, you will be a great date and turn into a great mate. Any girl would be lucky to have you!
Keep it real, and keep coming back to Don't Date Him Girl!
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
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