What You Can Learn About Dating From the Bachelorette
There is no television show quite like ABC's the Bachelor and the Bachelorette. Who wouldn't want that dream to come true? The chosen guys and girls who are stars of the show are hot sexy singles with 25 singles all fighting for their attention. A trip to the altar, life long happiness and a dream come true await them at the end, or do they?
"You can't hurry love" goes the song. "You just have to wait." It is true. You cannot rush love and a connection, and that is the big mistake these single guys and girls make. They think they can take a room full of strangers, have a few drinks and a few dates and find true love.
Sure, it happens sometimes, but not most of the time. The majority of the couples engaged on this show break up when filming is over. The show works against true love by forcing public exposure of the intimate unfoldings of a life long bond. People are posers and try to put on a different face in front of the camera. How can the guys and girls tell who is real and who is fake?
Because of that forced kind of drama, these bachelors and bachelorettes start "fishing". That's right, "fishing". This is something you definitely do not want to do in a relationship.
"Fishing" means asking questions over and over to get information as fast as possible, definitely not first date behavior! Quizzing new dates about their ex's will quickly end most promising relationships.
Being insecure and asking men outright whether or not they can see you in their future will have most men heading to the exit. Getting into major catfights with other girls over a man will usually make him dump you both. We see all these things on this program, but that does not mean you should do them!
Do not quiz a guy about his feelings or his intentions. Let him open up to you and be the one to bring those deep issues up. Do not ask him all about his ex's. They are called "ex" for a reason. It is over, so leave it in the past. Asking questions like that makes any girl seem insecure and needy -- not attractive!
Singles do not usually find true love in numbers, either. We see them taking four people to meet their families all at the same time. As the show progresses, they openly talk about how stressful it is to "share" the single person they are falling for with other dates.
We then watch the bachelorettes and bachelors making a big mistake, sleeping with four people at the same time toward the end of the show.
They get the key to the master suite on a dream date and get to decide to use it or not! That is a wrong move, girlfriends. Sleeping with more than one guy at a time usually makes you a loser down the road. One at a time, please.
What can you learn from this interesting TV show? What not to do! When you see bad behavior, use it to your advantage and learn from it. If you are making the same mistakes, stop. If you are quizzing guys or laying all your feelings out on the line prematurely, then change your ways. Do not be an open book in sixty seconds and two dates or less. Do not talk about serious subjects too soon.
When you are dating lots of people, especially 25 guys at a time, keep it casual and keep it simple. Do not sleep with any of them. Give them all enough time to weed themselves out. If you let it all unfold naturally, then they will, with time, reveal themselves as being right or wrong for you. Your life is not a drama or a television show. You do not have to force it in ten episodes or less. Your life is not a dress rehearsal. Take your time and get it right!
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
Remember, you can get a Free, Fast and Confidential Reply to all your love problems by writing the Love Doctor at KerryLGray@gmail.com.
"You can't hurry love" goes the song. "You just have to wait." It is true. You cannot rush love and a connection, and that is the big mistake these single guys and girls make. They think they can take a room full of strangers, have a few drinks and a few dates and find true love.
Sure, it happens sometimes, but not most of the time. The majority of the couples engaged on this show break up when filming is over. The show works against true love by forcing public exposure of the intimate unfoldings of a life long bond. People are posers and try to put on a different face in front of the camera. How can the guys and girls tell who is real and who is fake?
Because of that forced kind of drama, these bachelors and bachelorettes start "fishing". That's right, "fishing". This is something you definitely do not want to do in a relationship.
"Fishing" means asking questions over and over to get information as fast as possible, definitely not first date behavior! Quizzing new dates about their ex's will quickly end most promising relationships.
Being insecure and asking men outright whether or not they can see you in their future will have most men heading to the exit. Getting into major catfights with other girls over a man will usually make him dump you both. We see all these things on this program, but that does not mean you should do them!
Do not quiz a guy about his feelings or his intentions. Let him open up to you and be the one to bring those deep issues up. Do not ask him all about his ex's. They are called "ex" for a reason. It is over, so leave it in the past. Asking questions like that makes any girl seem insecure and needy -- not attractive!
Singles do not usually find true love in numbers, either. We see them taking four people to meet their families all at the same time. As the show progresses, they openly talk about how stressful it is to "share" the single person they are falling for with other dates.
We then watch the bachelorettes and bachelors making a big mistake, sleeping with four people at the same time toward the end of the show.
They get the key to the master suite on a dream date and get to decide to use it or not! That is a wrong move, girlfriends. Sleeping with more than one guy at a time usually makes you a loser down the road. One at a time, please.
What can you learn from this interesting TV show? What not to do! When you see bad behavior, use it to your advantage and learn from it. If you are making the same mistakes, stop. If you are quizzing guys or laying all your feelings out on the line prematurely, then change your ways. Do not be an open book in sixty seconds and two dates or less. Do not talk about serious subjects too soon.
When you are dating lots of people, especially 25 guys at a time, keep it casual and keep it simple. Do not sleep with any of them. Give them all enough time to weed themselves out. If you let it all unfold naturally, then they will, with time, reveal themselves as being right or wrong for you. Your life is not a drama or a television show. You do not have to force it in ten episodes or less. Your life is not a dress rehearsal. Take your time and get it right!
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
Remember, you can get a Free, Fast and Confidential Reply to all your love problems by writing the Love Doctor at KerryLGray@gmail.com.
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