Whatever You Do, Don't Date These Six Nice Guys!
We all know not to hook up with bad guys. Leave the alcoholics, druggies, sex addicts and liars alone. There are a few nice guys that you should pass up, too. Who are they?
The Man Who Does Not Pursue You - if a man is interested in you, he will find you, plain and simple. A man who does not call or ask you out is someone who is really not into you. Nothing ever stopped a man from reaching out for a woman he truly wants.
If you call him or drop by and he is open to your company, then he is just a nice guy. It does not mean he is interested in you. He can be interested in sex but not into you, so do not make that mistake, either. If a guy does not spend his time coming after you it will be an uphill battle all the way. Don't go there!
The Man Who Disappears - we have all seen this guy. He is there and then he is not. He is available and then he is gone. He calls and shows up but then time goes by and nothing. This man has something else going on the side, and you are an afterthought. You deserve to be the main course.
The Bad Habits Guy - if a guy smokes and you are allergic, do not go on even one date.
If he has three dogs and you cannot stand them do not think you will take their place. If a guy is a big drinker and you can barely drink one wine you will never enjoy your dates and you will always wonder who he really is, Mr. Sober or Mr. Tipsy. If he is a womanizer
and hits on every woman in the bar while he is with you, kick him to the curb.
You will always wonder where he is and what he is doing and you are more valuable than that.
The Man Who Is Not Physically Your Type - if he is really not your type and you know it, move on. There must be a physical spark and some chemistry to have a long term successful relationship.
Any girl who has tried to like the short, red haired big guy when her dream man is tall, dark and handsome knows this is the truth. There is someone perfect for everyone. Go find him.
The Man With Kids When You Are Not Maternal - if a man has kids and you really do not want to have anything to do with children, do not start up with him to begin with. It will not
work to embrace his kids and then ignore them once you are committed. This will not change
so do not expect it to. Find a single man with no little ones and everybody will be happier in the long run.
The Man With No Job, No Home, and No Car - sure, you are a nice girl. Sure, you like men
whether they are up or down. Sure, you are supportive. Sure, you can run fast, and that is what you must do when you meet a man like this. Run! Do not try to save him. Do not get involved with men who will drain you emotionally, physically or financially.
You are looking for a life partner, not a life project. If you really like him you can always check back later and see if the tide has turned.
Yes, these can all be nice guys and might really be worth your time, attention and energy
but why take a chance? This is your life, your one and only life. It is not a dress rehearsal. When you spot a guy who is not for you, cut if off early rather than later. Save yourself the time and trouble and emotion it takes to end a long involvement with Mr. Wrong and remember: Mr. Right is right around the corner!
-- Kerry Gray, kerrylgray@gmail.com
The Man Who Does Not Pursue You - if a man is interested in you, he will find you, plain and simple. A man who does not call or ask you out is someone who is really not into you. Nothing ever stopped a man from reaching out for a woman he truly wants.
If you call him or drop by and he is open to your company, then he is just a nice guy. It does not mean he is interested in you. He can be interested in sex but not into you, so do not make that mistake, either. If a guy does not spend his time coming after you it will be an uphill battle all the way. Don't go there!
The Man Who Disappears - we have all seen this guy. He is there and then he is not. He is available and then he is gone. He calls and shows up but then time goes by and nothing. This man has something else going on the side, and you are an afterthought. You deserve to be the main course.
The Bad Habits Guy - if a guy smokes and you are allergic, do not go on even one date.
If he has three dogs and you cannot stand them do not think you will take their place. If a guy is a big drinker and you can barely drink one wine you will never enjoy your dates and you will always wonder who he really is, Mr. Sober or Mr. Tipsy. If he is a womanizer
and hits on every woman in the bar while he is with you, kick him to the curb.
You will always wonder where he is and what he is doing and you are more valuable than that.
The Man Who Is Not Physically Your Type - if he is really not your type and you know it, move on. There must be a physical spark and some chemistry to have a long term successful relationship.
Any girl who has tried to like the short, red haired big guy when her dream man is tall, dark and handsome knows this is the truth. There is someone perfect for everyone. Go find him.
The Man With Kids When You Are Not Maternal - if a man has kids and you really do not want to have anything to do with children, do not start up with him to begin with. It will not
work to embrace his kids and then ignore them once you are committed. This will not change
so do not expect it to. Find a single man with no little ones and everybody will be happier in the long run.
The Man With No Job, No Home, and No Car - sure, you are a nice girl. Sure, you like men
whether they are up or down. Sure, you are supportive. Sure, you can run fast, and that is what you must do when you meet a man like this. Run! Do not try to save him. Do not get involved with men who will drain you emotionally, physically or financially.
You are looking for a life partner, not a life project. If you really like him you can always check back later and see if the tide has turned.
Yes, these can all be nice guys and might really be worth your time, attention and energy
but why take a chance? This is your life, your one and only life. It is not a dress rehearsal. When you spot a guy who is not for you, cut if off early rather than later. Save yourself the time and trouble and emotion it takes to end a long involvement with Mr. Wrong and remember: Mr. Right is right around the corner!
-- Kerry Gray, kerrylgray@gmail.com
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