Why Women in the Sex Industry Are Bad For Your Relationship
It is time to stand up for the truth and have a zero policy toward supporting the sex trade
and any girls who work in it.
It is a story older than time. Girl goes wrong. Girl ends up on the wrong side
of men, using her body for money. Should you tolerate it in your life? No. Should you try to be "cool" and accept it? No way! Does it make sense for your life or for any girls you know? Absolutely not.
Working in the sex trade and trying to make it seem okay is one of the biggest myths our society perpetrates. It is not okay. Any girl who chooses it has clearly made a destructive, wrong choice and is dooming herself to a wasted life of misery. Make it very clear to everyone you know that using
your body to make money is completely intolerable to you. Zero tolerance. Do not
have anything to do with any girl who does.
If you think they make a lot of money, think again. By the time strippers pay the club and all the men they owe, (who make money off them, by the way, and how stupid is that?), they are lucky to take home fifty bucks in a night.
Any girl can work a straight job and make that, or double that in less time. Work two jobs if you have to, and learn to save
your money so you have options. Sex workers usually spend all their money. Few are smart enough to save and go straight and get out. Most of them develop expensive drug and alcohol addictions to go along with their destructive choices.
They don't keep the money they make, even if they have a "good" night. They manage to lose it and stay trapped in the destructive cycle of the sex worker. They pay men in clubs or pimps for protection from the men who pay them
for sex. It is a vicious cycle. Few ever get out. None of them get out without paying a heavy physical and emotional price.
It is simply never, ever worth it to work in the sex trade. The sad part is, it is never as necessary as they think it is, either.
No girl has to go there. Many rationalize it in their own vicious cycles of self-deception, but it is never necessary to work in the sex trade.
Sex workers hate themselves, and have no self-esteem. If they liked themselves at all, they would not be using their bodies for money. If they loved themselves, it would be completely intolerable to work in the sex trade. It really is that simple. If a girl has any self-esteem at all when she starts out in the sex industry, it is dead and buried by the time she is finished. Sexuality and her ability to enjoy a normal sex life are destroyed. Her life will never be the same again.
What man wants to associate with a girl who puts the cost of her body at a dollar or two? Not any good ones. Lots of girls start out poor and have it rough. They work two or three jobs, save hard, and slowly pick themselves up and give themselves the opportunity to achieve better than they came from. The sex trade destroys opportunity. It kills mental, emotional and physical well-being. It is really that simple. It really is that destructive and wrong.
Oh, and when is she finished, by the way? When she is forty and a drugged out junkie in jail? When she is a fifty year old homeless drunk prostitute with no teeth, turning tricks for a dollar or two and a can of beer? Think about it.
Many men go to strip bars and try to date dancers, hookers and models at some point in their life. The reverse is also true. Many men do not. If you are ready to settle down and your man insists on going to strip bars, gets lap dances and doesn't see anything wrong with it, set your sites on someone else to marry. This guy is not mature enough to settle down with you. He has no clue about sexuality and will not know what it takes to build a satisfying emotional and physical life together. You certainly do not want to have children with him, either. As men get older and have daughters, they will tell you that their daughters became so precious to them they could no longer go to strip clubs. A guy does not have to be old to know it is not the right kind of life for any girl who is worthwhile.
Do not think you can beat the odds by working in the sex trade and then rise above it. Putting yourself in that environment leads to rapes, assaults, and hard core crime. Most sex industry workers become victims of crime. Most are arrested several times. Why would you put yourself at that kind of risk? Why would any girl in her right mind think that risk is okay?
How can girls value themselves so little that they give lap dances, oral sex, make out with and have hands stuck up their private parts in public bars to complete strangers, hour after hour, day after day, year after year, for the same few bucks they could make at a burger joint or a convenience store? They had made pitiful, poor, destructive and totally wrong choices; that is how.
It is a story older than time, but it does not have to be your story. It does not have to be the story of your girlfriends, your sisters, or your daughters. Put your foot down and maintain a zero tolerance policy. Stop associating with anyone who works in or supports the sex industry. Be firm and suggest therapy and counseling to the sex worker you know. She needs to get some real help to find out exactly why she hates herself so much.
Let all the guys know that you value your own sexuality too much to ever cheapen and destroy it like that. Insist that your men and sons and brothers value women so much that they do not tolerate or associate with the sex industry, either.
The sex trade will probably always continue to destroy lives and feed on women in a frenzied cycle. Those girls make their own choices and will have to live with their destructive consequences. You make the right choice for you. Zero tolerance. Say no to sex for money.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
Know a girl who works in the sex industry? Want to share something that happened to you or someone you care about? Write us and we will post the stories on line, anonymously, of course. Let us work together to say no to the sex industry!
and any girls who work in it.
It is a story older than time. Girl goes wrong. Girl ends up on the wrong side
of men, using her body for money. Should you tolerate it in your life? No. Should you try to be "cool" and accept it? No way! Does it make sense for your life or for any girls you know? Absolutely not.
Working in the sex trade and trying to make it seem okay is one of the biggest myths our society perpetrates. It is not okay. Any girl who chooses it has clearly made a destructive, wrong choice and is dooming herself to a wasted life of misery. Make it very clear to everyone you know that using
your body to make money is completely intolerable to you. Zero tolerance. Do not
have anything to do with any girl who does.
If you think they make a lot of money, think again. By the time strippers pay the club and all the men they owe, (who make money off them, by the way, and how stupid is that?), they are lucky to take home fifty bucks in a night.
Any girl can work a straight job and make that, or double that in less time. Work two jobs if you have to, and learn to save
your money so you have options. Sex workers usually spend all their money. Few are smart enough to save and go straight and get out. Most of them develop expensive drug and alcohol addictions to go along with their destructive choices.
They don't keep the money they make, even if they have a "good" night. They manage to lose it and stay trapped in the destructive cycle of the sex worker. They pay men in clubs or pimps for protection from the men who pay them
for sex. It is a vicious cycle. Few ever get out. None of them get out without paying a heavy physical and emotional price.
It is simply never, ever worth it to work in the sex trade. The sad part is, it is never as necessary as they think it is, either.
No girl has to go there. Many rationalize it in their own vicious cycles of self-deception, but it is never necessary to work in the sex trade.
Sex workers hate themselves, and have no self-esteem. If they liked themselves at all, they would not be using their bodies for money. If they loved themselves, it would be completely intolerable to work in the sex trade. It really is that simple. If a girl has any self-esteem at all when she starts out in the sex industry, it is dead and buried by the time she is finished. Sexuality and her ability to enjoy a normal sex life are destroyed. Her life will never be the same again.
What man wants to associate with a girl who puts the cost of her body at a dollar or two? Not any good ones. Lots of girls start out poor and have it rough. They work two or three jobs, save hard, and slowly pick themselves up and give themselves the opportunity to achieve better than they came from. The sex trade destroys opportunity. It kills mental, emotional and physical well-being. It is really that simple. It really is that destructive and wrong.
Oh, and when is she finished, by the way? When she is forty and a drugged out junkie in jail? When she is a fifty year old homeless drunk prostitute with no teeth, turning tricks for a dollar or two and a can of beer? Think about it.
Many men go to strip bars and try to date dancers, hookers and models at some point in their life. The reverse is also true. Many men do not. If you are ready to settle down and your man insists on going to strip bars, gets lap dances and doesn't see anything wrong with it, set your sites on someone else to marry. This guy is not mature enough to settle down with you. He has no clue about sexuality and will not know what it takes to build a satisfying emotional and physical life together. You certainly do not want to have children with him, either. As men get older and have daughters, they will tell you that their daughters became so precious to them they could no longer go to strip clubs. A guy does not have to be old to know it is not the right kind of life for any girl who is worthwhile.
Do not think you can beat the odds by working in the sex trade and then rise above it. Putting yourself in that environment leads to rapes, assaults, and hard core crime. Most sex industry workers become victims of crime. Most are arrested several times. Why would you put yourself at that kind of risk? Why would any girl in her right mind think that risk is okay?
How can girls value themselves so little that they give lap dances, oral sex, make out with and have hands stuck up their private parts in public bars to complete strangers, hour after hour, day after day, year after year, for the same few bucks they could make at a burger joint or a convenience store? They had made pitiful, poor, destructive and totally wrong choices; that is how.
It is a story older than time, but it does not have to be your story. It does not have to be the story of your girlfriends, your sisters, or your daughters. Put your foot down and maintain a zero tolerance policy. Stop associating with anyone who works in or supports the sex industry. Be firm and suggest therapy and counseling to the sex worker you know. She needs to get some real help to find out exactly why she hates herself so much.
Let all the guys know that you value your own sexuality too much to ever cheapen and destroy it like that. Insist that your men and sons and brothers value women so much that they do not tolerate or associate with the sex industry, either.
The sex trade will probably always continue to destroy lives and feed on women in a frenzied cycle. Those girls make their own choices and will have to live with their destructive consequences. You make the right choice for you. Zero tolerance. Say no to sex for money.
Kerry Gray, the Love Doctor
Know a girl who works in the sex industry? Want to share something that happened to you or someone you care about? Write us and we will post the stories on line, anonymously, of course. Let us work together to say no to the sex industry!
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