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Rating: 7.8/10 (1760 votes cast)
This Colombian man is EXTREMELY manipulative and at first, is very well-liked because he is very handsome, has boyish-charm, is very talkative (accent), and funny. He claims to not want "drama" when he is the one who causes it. John has Borderline Personality Disorder, but blames women in his past (or current women) for his problems (all of his exes are "crazy ***es" according to him, and he was the one who was so "generous" and "tried", but it was all their fault, you know!), as is typical for those with Borderline Personality Disorder. DO NOT BE FOOLED BY THIS MAN! He will use women for every possible thing he can including, but not limited to: sex, transportation, food/cooking, cleaning, someone to take care of his various personal affairs and errands, and MONEY. Mainly, John is addicted to seduction and attention. He needs someone for "supply" due to his BPD. I had the misfortune of giving John the benefit of the doubt over the years, and trying to deal with and help him with his Borderline Personality Disorder. He continued to have online and telephone relationships with various women (all over the WORLD, I should add) and eventually, I discovered he was dating someone locally. I am quite sure he cheated on me previously, but I have no solid proof of it. In the end, I threw him out after discovering he had things going on with various women, and he left owing me approximately $7,000.00. I had loaned him sums of money over the years, he ran up my phone bill almost $1,000 with calls to Colombia, he gave away many of my belongings promising to replace them, but didn't, and AFTER I broke up with him, his cellphone company charged MY debit card to pay HIS bill, and I ended up incurring over $1,000 in various bank and creditor fees. He has made NO attempt whatsoever to pay me back. He was "hiding" at the homes of his family members in Newark, New Jersey for a period of time, but last I knew, he was living in Austell, Georgia. He has been out of work with Delta Air Lines due to a back injury, and has been receiving disability and/or workers compensation. He WAS going to have back surgery in January, and I was going to take a vacation from my job to take care of him, but I do not know the current status of his employment and/or work history. The woman he was dating locally (when he lived in the Buckhead area with me) told me that he lied to her, saying he lived with roommates, and John was obviously pursuing a relationship with her. He was also communicating with a woman in Colombia, saying he loved her, even though he always told me that he "hates" Colombian women. ??? There were other women he had various sorts of relationships with. He kept his cellphone "top secret", giving me all the more reason to be so su***ious of him. I know this man may be VERY tempting but, trust me -- HE IS BAD NEWS! He's not even worth the trouble due to all the drama he causes (raging, criticizing, blaming, atempting to lower your self-esteem, etc.) and he is absolutely no good in bed either -- just the selfish "out to get himself off" type of man. He is also sterile, which he may lie about. John has genital *** which he claims to have gotten from an ex-girlfriend (who got it from her cheating ex-husband). John often uses some form of the nickname "Baby_Diablo" on websites. e has a profile on "Adult Friend Finder" under "baby_diablo72". Here is a fairly recent photo that should make him easily recognizable. --ANONYMOUS
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09 September, 2008 - 01:30
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02 September, 2008 - 20:25
This guy sounds like a real loser not to mention a pansy *** Momma's Boy. I feel your pain since I dated a Momma's Boy from Lebanon who cheated, lied and stole from every job he ever had. Stay strong and don't go back! I'm sorry about all the money you lost but you should set one simple rule in dating - "DON'T GIVE MEN MONEY! Women don't take care of men nor do they help them. A real man would never take money from a woman so please don't make the same mistake in the future.
12 June, 2008 - 00:10
Haha! I know a guy like that! My ex-boss Juan Pulido!
07 June, 2008 - 23:08
Wow....what a scammer he sounds like!!!
27 May, 2008 - 20:27
Ladies stop trying to help these creeps! Stop allowing them to run up your bills and borrow money from you that you know damn well you will never see again. Stop makign it so easy for them to walk over you and mistreat you. Dont ignore the signs.When they show their true colors kick them to the curb for good! Raise your standards!
25 February, 2008 - 20:54
Someone having borderline personality disorder or any other disorder does NOT excuse their behavior. This man is responsible for getting help for himself. That is not someone else's responsibility.
25 February, 2008 - 20:50
Continued: I have also been trained in seminars on how to deal with those who have Borderline Personality Disorder. I was able to help John by not allowing him to escalate to the point of physical abuse, but he is a grown man (chronologically), and I most certainly could not control him. I provided him with books, I offered to help him find a therapist, I talked with him endlessly, I used DBT techniques, etc. However, John is in denial, and I could not force him to get help. He crossed the boundaries I had set for myself on more than one occasion, and then he went waaaaay too far over the line, at which point I got him out of my life. John knows this profile is here -- a friend told him about it.
25 February, 2008 - 20:44
To the poster below: I am VERY familiar with Borderline Personality Disorder, and John was diagnosed with it. I tried to help him for 2.5 years, but, like most Borderlines, he didn't think he had a "problem", but everyone and everything around him were the "problems". Every word written here is true, and I DO know what I am talking about.
25 February, 2008 - 20:42
Congratulations to John for being the NUMBER ONE cheater/liar/user!!!!!!!!! I'm sure his mother must be proud. She once said to me: "I am SO sorry. My son is very bad. I thought he had changed, but I was wrong."
23 February, 2008 - 22:10
how about you actually look up borderline personality disorder and some of the symptoms.. i think you'll find that one of them is lack of self control... before you post something like this you should educate yourself... he did the wrong thing by taking advantage of you.. but instead of posting him on here and possibly allowing him to find it, therefore making him worse.. you should have assisted him in getting the better help that he needs