I have been with this man for a little over 5 years and we have 3 wonderful kids together, but our time is over and done with, thank God. Jay is very verbally and emotionally abusive - and for most of 2005-2006, physically abusive (even while I was pregnant), but at least that finally stopped - and I frequently get called a b!tch and a h0e and he tells me I'm stupid and weak and a coward. I have absolutely devoted myself to him and our kids and try to do everything I can for him (example: even though we're extremely poor, I saved several paychecks in a row and bought him the 52-inch HDTV that he desperately wanted for Christmas 2006 and then a state-of-the-art printer/scanner/copier/fax for Father's Day 2007, got nothing in return and very little gratitude to boot). I don't go out, rarely even talk on the phone unless it's to him, keep the house clean, singlehandedly take care of all our children with virtually NO assistance from him (which is very hard, as they are all still in diapers), give him massages and cook him dinner, give him sex whenever he wants it, day or night, try to keep myself looking good, AND work a full-time job overnight so that our kids don't have to go to daycare, although he does little to help watch them during the day so that I can get some rest. Despite this, I am criticized constantly and insulted, even when it's supposedly "constructive," and told that I can't make it on my own (I did for two years before we moved in together, so I don't see why I couldn't now) without him and that I'll probably never find anyone else because I'm overweight (I've kept on about ten pounds after our four-month-old was born) and I have three kids so nobody will want me.