What's On Your Mind?
I am a 37 year old now single woman. I never been maried. I have been in long term relationships. Well, I have been seeing this guy since October. I found out he was cheating. But he hide it real well.He was still sleeping with me. Well when i found textes in his phone from another woman of course I called her. She just hung up on me. Well,when i started to get nast he threaten me with PFA's. What a man! The thing I am having trouble with is letting him go. If any other man would have done what he has he would have been gone. There is just something in side me that won't let go. And I don't want to go to jail. I mean he wasn't that great in bed but that didn't matter because I loved him so much. Can anybody help him on how to get over him. It seems all I meet are losers.
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15 September, 2008 - 14:54
To the eighteen year old, Baby girl keep your zeal because you are going to need it. I too am a 37 year old woman that has had a terrible track record with men. Luckily, I did not become a "baby mama". I feel like crap everytime I deal with a con artist because that is what they are. Some of the things I do to help me is stay focused on myself and my goals. I write more, I try to come up with ideas for inventions, try to make myself rich. It does hurt to know I don't have a good man that just want to be with me. But I know I am a good woman, intelligent and wonderful too and no matter how long it takes I will have that relationship I want and need. I have been there when you just can't let go. Just make a list of all the pros and cons about that man. Most likely the cons out way the pros. Keep that list close and when you feel yourself slippin take a long hard look at it and that should snap you back to reality.
24 August, 2008 - 22:23
I so understand your pain. I am looking for that same advice. All this love yourself, he must not be the right person doesn't seem to matter to my broken heart. I wish you luck
29 July, 2008 - 23:29
HAY LADIES,
WE ARE SO SPECIAL AND DONT HAVE TO HAVE A MAN IN OUR LIVES TO ENJOY IT. OF COURSE WE WANT ONE. WE ARE MADE TO WANT A MAN AS THEY ARE MADE TO WANT US. I KNOW ITS HARD. MEN ARE MADE DIFFERENTLY AND ITS UP TO US TO UNDERSTAND THAT AND LEARN HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM WHILE KEEPING OUR OWN LIVES ON TRACK. NEVER GIVE ANYONE 100 PERCENT. SAVE SOME FOR YOURSELF AND GOD. AND PLEASE LADIES, LETS NOT BASH MEN ON THE SAME OLD STUFF YEAR AFTER YEAR. IVE READ POSTING ON SOMEONE I KNOW AND I CAN TELL THAT THEY ALL ARE RPOBABLY FROM THE SAME WOMAN WHO JUST CANT GET OVER IT AND MOVE ON. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO LET GO OF THE PAST AND OUR MISTAKES IN IT. EVEN WHEN YOU'RE MARRIED, A PERSON DOES NOT BELONG TO YOU. EACH OF US MUST ANSWER TO GOD. IF A RELATIONSHIP IS NOT GOING THE WAY YOU WANT OR NEED IT TO BE, LEAVE IT ALONE. YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS
29 July, 2008 - 09:59
I am turning 37 in September and I have never been married as well. Sometimes, we think that we invested the time in the man, we need to hang on and he will come around. You're not going to get over him suddenly. It is going to take time. While you are healing from your broken heart, don't do anything that will get you into trouble.
27 July, 2008 - 03:59
Okay Hey, Im eighteen years old, and I can say this!
GIRL WHAT ARE YOU DOING! The man obviously has no respect for you if he was willing to go that far and disrespect you, I know its hard to let go but you can't let someone walk over you like that, and no matter what your not going to be happy if you stayed with him because you would have nothing but a trust issue relationship, and you'd be the one worrying all the time wondering if he was lying or not! NOBODY DESERVES THAT. You know yourself you can find better, because you dont deserve to be lied or cheated on! Maybe its a fear of being alone, I dont know but excuses dont count. The man betrayed you and hurt you, nobody has the single right to do that!
Get out!
25 July, 2008 - 11:19
lots of men these days want two women at the same time, one to take care of them another for fun, what we women have to do is to stop bitching at each other and talk, share our problems and *** back at these men. have a man when he have a women. or pretend you have another man, by being on the phone with your girlfriend's at certain time. play there games!! you will be hurt for a short time , but will get over it..
23 July, 2008 - 17:28
I'm having similar feelings myself, letting go of this last in a string of bad men. One of the things I keep telling myself is that its not him that is so hard to let go of. It's me, being tired of the game and afraid to start from scratch all over again. Don't let yourself or him believe he is any more special than the men you have walked away from before. Once you stop caring what he's thinking
22 July, 2008 - 15:32
I am a now single 35 year old just out of 5 year relationship. We had been engaged for 2 years. He came home one night and started yelling at me for no reason, which in turn became violent. He hit me and I called the police and had him arrested. The next day while he was in jail his phone was home and it started blowing up with all these texts. They were all women. I did my research and found out that he has been cheating for about 2 yrs. I knew it, felt it in my gut, and forever know the signs. My only suggestion to you is let him go. A man who cheats will forever do it, he will try and blame you for his mistakes and make you feel you did wrong for him to stray. Its not true. You need to occupy your time, relearn yourself, find enjoyment alone. Seek friends and talk about it. You need to heal, he is not worthy of you, remember that. A cheater belongs single, not in a relationship. You will meet a lot of losers in your lifetime and they are just learning experiences. I promis you there is a guy out there who will love you and only you. Its the most difficult thing to do, to let someone go that you cant stop thinking about and love very much, but dont waste it someone who is going to break your heart. Chin up girl, and maybe you and I can get over these losers together.