I have been talking over the phone with this guy for half a year now. I lived in Seattle and he lived in the San Francisco bay area until recently. I moved to San Francisco because I am looking for work. We met online. I introduced myself and told him I was planning to move down to California soon to pursue my career. He is in the same line of work. Anyways, at first I treated him like a professional contact, then I began treating him as a friend. He came to visit Seattle for a friend's wedding - he has family and friends living there - and we went on a date. He came back for another visit a few weeks later and we went on our second date. We made out! So a month and a half has passed since then and we go out on our third and fourth date here in San Francisco. Made out again. Something feels different though and I can't put my finger on it. We have been talking this whole time, at least once a week if not more. I am attached. He is still into me but more aloof. Like, he used to pick up the phone every time I called and now he will call me back but doesn't ever pick up exactly when I call. It's the little things that are bothering me although he still acts like he likes me in other ways. I have been hurt many times before. I have been disappointed, let down, and am pretty much disenchanted with they whole idea of being in love. Last year I had to have an abortion and that guy abandoned me after. I am still having a hard time trusting. I want things to go back to the way they were with Evan when I was in Seattle and he was in California. No pressure because of the distance. Now it feels like a test of our relationship and it's too much pressure for me to handle. I haven't even found a job yet and might very well end up living somewhere in Southern California instead of here. With four dates down, I feel like we are moving into sex territory. I made a promise to myself not to have uncommitted sex ever again about a year ago.