What's On Your Mind?
I was recently involved with a military guy who contacted me through a dating site. He admitted to being in a loveless marriage (RED FLAG I should have seen!) and was staying with her for the sake of the 3 kids and for financial reasons. He tols me he hated her and she withheld sex from him...
He really had all the right things to say to me to get me to meet him. We met, was a really nice guy (or so it seemed) We started seeing eachother. His family lived in another state and he often went home to see the kids and do the daddy thing, which I admired him for.
To make a long story short, after 3 months of being with him, he emails me that he has to ignore me because his wife is 2 months pregnant and he has to do the honorable thing....WOW!
What amazes me is the fact that he was willing to have a relationship with me, and lied to me, when it was her (the no good, lazy, not working wife) and his 3 kids....Good thing this happened now, although I am a little crushed right now with being hit with this whirlwind....
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09 August, 2009 - 14:29
When will you women learn that these men are just looking for a piece of *** and will never leave their families. If you women out there will stop making them think it's alright to start an affair before leaving their wives,this will always be the end result. There was obviously some love there is she turned up pregnant.
07 July, 2009 - 12:30
Never sympathise with and then get involved with a guy who says in he's in a loveless marriage and isn't getting any sex........boo hoo! It's his problem so he needs to solve it by either resolving his issues within the marriage and continuing it or choosing to end the marriage BEFORE he moves on to a new relationship. Until then he is unavailable in every sense of the word. To put it bluntly, married men are simply off-limits........no matter what sob story they tell you!
03 July, 2009 - 12:59
Guys are stupid if you haven't figured that out yet. LOL! They will say or do anything to feed their egos and when their current life seems boring or is disfunctional they will seek other means to fulfill their physical or emotional needs. In your case, that red flag should of sent you walking the other way. But by this experience hopefully you'll know better going forward. Yes, it does suck and you're feeling hurt but give yourself some time and you'll be over it soon. Don't analyze it, don't replay everything in your mind. He is flat out married and you need to let it go. I'm sure he may have cared for you however, it was an infatuation on his end. They don't leave their wives especially when they have children. Too much to lose is what he's thinking. Go out with some girlfriends and have a good time. Cheer up you'll meet someone else. Be sure to pay attention to the red flags that go up in your mind. :)
03 June, 2009 - 20:23
I RECENTLY GOT HIT MY MY EX ITS NOT A GOOD FEELIN NOR DO YOU NEED TO DEAL WITH SUCH HORRIBLE ATTITUDE BY A MAN OR LITTLE BOY
30 May, 2009 - 17:49
You should feel bad. The way he dumped you was exactly what you deserved, for knowingly getting involved with a married man. Hopefully in the future you will respect the bonds of marriage, and what it stands for. And for you to call his wife any names is really silly of you, it just makes you look bitter and desperate. Remember she and her children are the victims not your sorry azz.
24 May, 2009 - 00:54
this *** sounds just like someone on this site by the name of Terrence Griffin. Search and read his story - is it the same guy. Post a comment on his profile
16 May, 2009 - 23:13
He tried to trip you up by lying at first but then trying to be honest because i think that guys feel that when they are honest even about something that isnt good they think they still can win you over because they were honest.Thats a man for you