I'm new to this site and I'm sure this topic has been discussed a million times before but please help me out, I am suffering from the age old killer of relationships - jealousy. And it sucks, it eats away at me inside though I know my agitated feelings have no logic behind them. I have been dating my boyfriend for about three and a half months and he tells me he loves me daily, he is just about always there for me and he is like the guy of my dreams, the one I'm pretty sure could be Mr. Right, after years of dating creep upon creep. But the thing that drives me nuts and is killing our relationship is the horrific jealousy I always feel whenever he mentions one of his exes or tells me a story about them or shows me a photograph. I hate it. I freak out and don't want to talk to him. My policy has always been ignorance is bliss. I just don't want to know how his ex-girlfriends look or to see in a picture a necklace he gave her when they were going out. His policy is that I should know about his past so that I can get to know who he is today. My policy is aaarrgh - I'm constantly comparing myself - I don't look like any of these other chicks, they all have bigger bra sizes, blond beach chick looks. Though they were all much older than him and did have kids which should be of some comfort. I know I clearly suffer from low self esteem problems and I'm from another country and without family etc... while he is Southern California born and raised and has a ton of friends and a great and loving family. No matter how hard I explain he cannot understand the insecurities that eat away at my insides like a cancer, my exaggerated thoughts and ensuing depression. I know he is faithful to me and these women are no threat so why do I constantly compare myself to these exes and stupidly feel they were somehow better than me and how do I make him understand to quit bringing stuff up I don't want to hear and stop feeling angry for no reason before I completely destroy what could be a great relationship. It sounds simple enough and I will think I have it under control and rationalize everything but takes little more than a picture or a comment to set me off again. Help - I know this is sick and stupid behavior - Thanks.