Stop asking "why" ... and start saying "how" ... HOW can I improve my awareness and intuition. It is a waste of HUGE energy to try and get to the bottom of understanding what WE did wrong. I just kicked someone out of my life after having been "duped" for almost a year, but it is what it is, and I was blinded by all the bull**** as well. Now in debt like never before, I have to stop focusing on what he took, and realize that he wins if I stay focused on that negativity. I am a hell of a lot stronger than he is, and I will overcome ALL of it! He is the one who will NEVER get out of his own way, and will continue to build a life of guilt and deception, which will eventually take him down. He pays in the long run, with an inability to stand himself. DO A BACKGROUND CHECK ladies, ALWAYS. and a Credit Check too.